.....but I laughed for a good 5 minutes after seeing your username. And then reading your 'Good luck sweetie' made me LMAO some more.
Even if he does continue to attempt to contact you after the house business is settled, I predict that you'll handle the guy juuuussstt fine.
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
The soulmate must be due very soon and he is expected to be divorced and married to her before the child is born.
It is what it is.
Is it foolish of me to expect him to just go away once this business with the house is settled?
I don't know the answer to that. First, do you have an attorney to protect your interest? Second, do you believe the "separation agreement" adequately protects you?
I think all of his motivations are beyond disgusting, but, at this point, you need to focus on what needs to happen for YOU, what exactly is in YOUR best interest. Period.
Keep your eye on the ball my friend. ((Hugs))
Status: D 2011
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling
[This message edited by movingforward13 at 11:55 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)]
First: User Name - FREAKING AWESOME!!!
Secondly: You sound very well focused, especially dealing with the PA type. He goes P, you go A; he goes A, you go P.
Yeah, I kind of see how this will go.
When Ms. Barely Legal delivers the Soulmate Baby, his head is going to snap off. Trust me. Be prepared for him campaigning for you to be his soft place to land.
Close the airport.
"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!
He texted me today telling me that he changed job's because of a change in policy. What might that be? Though shall not fuck around with barely legal co-workers! Thanks tips but I really don't give a shit. I just told him to make sure the money was transfered over for bills. I also don't care where he is going to end up working but apparently he felt the need to share that as well. The house will be gone in 1 month but I swear to god I'm going to have a lot more grey hairs by the time it's done.
first of all big hugs (((((((((((free))))))
Your STBWX is in for a horrific wake up call when his "soulmate"'s glitter packed vagina starts shitting out a baby instead of strawberry scented unicorn farts.
You have displayed amazing strength, although I am sure you have gone through seven levels of hell to get to where you are now.
Brace yourself for him to coming sniffing around you again when the fantasy life falls apart. Right now his HOLEMATE is propping up his ego, making him feel like the most desirable man on earth, and generally being a huge sweetie pie. Think of her of a giant walking, talking vagina that whispers sweet nothings to his dong.
The big vagina is about to turn into an exhausted mother with a known cheater for a partner.
Everything changes when you start doing real life with Ms. Fantasyland. She will either never trust him and keep him on a short leash, or decide that doing family life so young, is like, not so totally awesome after all, and will dump the baby on him to go party with her friends.
Be ready, and stay strong.
If you don't have kids together, then complete and total no contact with the douche is your best bet for healing and your ticket to a brand new, totally douche free life.
Keep posting here. We will walk you though it.
Reality...what a concept...
And you are right, answer only about children and money.
You're an interesting species, an interesting mix. You're capable of such beautiful dreams and such horrible nightmares. You feel so lost, so cut off, so alone, only you're not. See, in all our searching, the only thing we've found that makes the emptiness bearable is each other. - Contact
[This message edited by Linus1968 at 9:24 PM, May 16th (Thursday)]