Monitor the situation right now, and confront only when you have more evidence.
If in fact it's only an EA right now, if you are moving out, and he just called her, chances are that they are going to take it to the next level.
This is what I thought in the very very beginning, that HE was having some kind of emotional affair with her, but that SHE wouldn't want anything to do with him, (I mean she was newly married, 20 years younger, 2 feet taller) really?? - NOPE, It was her all along, the first that told him - that "She was in love with him"...
Stay calm for a little while, think and observe, gather evidence.
Me -BS (49)
DS 21, DD 17
So what did she tell you? And what did the BF say?
Yes, I told everyone that knew them or asked too. No way was I going to keep his little secret.
I'm so tired of trying to be the good person while he continues to carry on his EA. I sit at home packing my belongings, cleaning up so he has a clean home to come back to, getting the washer fixed, paying our property taxes because he just can't do it and taking care of everything else while he sits back and eats his cake. Screw it! I told him last night to file for a divorce and he knows I'll take him for everything I can get. I invested 24 long years with this man, lots of sweat, tears and blood, and this is the thanks I get for being there for him? Nope, not any more.
Right now I'm angry. Tomorrow I'll probably be sad. The emotional roller coaster.
If I do hear from any of them I'll be sure to let everyone know what they say. I know my WH is going to be pissed and probably won't talk to me for quite a while but that's his problem. I'm going to take back my life!
If she didn't respond, then she's guilty of something. Her BF, probably has been told by her that YOU are the one that's crazy.
It turned out to be a way to take charge of life for me that he had turned upside-down. It felt okay through my tears to tell him and OW that I wasn't going to sit and wait anymore, even though I had to borrow the money.
That concerns me that he contacted her afer you decided to move out, I hope he doesn't think of it as a permit to freedom from M instead of the opportunity to work on M? That's what Perv did. Told me he "wanted some space", but it's not what he really meant with OW waiting in the bushes somewhere.
Sorry for your pain and difficult times.
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.
I also worry about the bills at the house since I'm the one who moved out. Most of the bills are in his name but the house and house insurance is in both of our names. We were supposed to get together and pay the bills this weekend but he was so mad at me he never got a hold of me to do it. I'm just worried that he's going to financially screw us more than he already has. I'm also scared that I won't be able to take care of my daughter; granted she is 17 and a junior in HS but there are a lot of financial responsibilities that comes with that age.
Sorry, this more of a vent but I'm just scared to death. Hopefully tomorrow I can get a little bit of information on my options. If any of you have any advice for me I would really, really appreciate it!