I have been cheated on by 3 different men, and I have more DDays than anyone ever should. I am here, just trying to pickup the pieces.
So all of you can ready my story- it's been over a year, and we are doing tons better for the most part. We are planning a wedding for this summer.
The bachelor party is a huge trigger for me. I have made my feelings very clear (no strippers, no inappropriate-ness of any kids, no other women). FiancÚ agrees and has promised to respect that, his friends agree and have also promised to respect that. FiancÚ and I even made a "what if" plan- if anything happens that he thinks I would be upset about, he will leave and call me immediately. I trust him, I do...I just don't trust the situation. The whole thing feels very not okay to me- I can't explain it. I can tell my fiancÚ how I feel, and I can even trust him, but the bottom line is that I can't control his friends and the choices they make. I think that's what has me so frustrated and worried.
We're not doing a joint party- for various reasons, that is not an option.
Every time I bring it up now, my fiancÚ gets angry. He says he has never been into strippers, he knows my boundaries and has already agreed to respect them, and that I am just alienating him by continuing to create a fight about it.
I still feel very uneasy and triggered. I feel like I have the right to talk about it.
Any advice on how to handle the situation?
"What did you expect? I am a scorpion."