Here's what happened.
At the beginning of the year, I was to start paying her Alimony+CS, but I needed a couple of months to build up enough cash in account as to not put me in the red.
So, I asked her for two payments in the month instead of one--for a few months. Part of this agreement is that I wouldn't take her off the CCs until then. So here we are in May. So I bring it up and this is what she does.
She says "I see how it's going to be" and "I thought we would be different from other divorced couples". I keep thinking today "I have been quite different. I have not been nasty one iota. I haven't even yelled at her because of all this. I have been different. I have not been mean rude or ugly to her at all. I even got her a Mother's Day gift from me and one from the kids. Not that I am trying to "win her back" but being nice, you know.
and I have only discussed how hurt i have been about the divorce only like twice i think.
So she calls today and tells me how much stress I've put her under because of the CC thing. Whatever, I have been more than gracious to her even in the face of betrayal.
To her credit, she hasn't used them much in the last 3 months. I just don't understand why she is all upset? Just because I'm taking her off the CCs doesn't mean I'm being mean, does it? I'm totally within my rights to do this, right?
I'm not going crazy. But boy I do think if I could get medication, I'd be taking it.
I hear what you guys are saying, I'm just not seeing it yet. NC is tough when she has my kids and she is the only way I get to see them (I work overseas currently on a military base).
Thanks for listening.
[This message edited by la433 at 8:43 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)]