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Reconciliation :
This is what scares me most about R

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 outtanowhere (original poster member #39001) posted at 12:11 PM on Wednesday, May 15th, 2013

A young girl was trudging along a mountain path, trying to reach her grandmother's house.

It was bitter cold, and the wind cut like a knife.

When she was within sight of her destination, she heard a rustle at her feet.

Looking down, she saw a snake.

Before she could move, the snake spoke to her.

He said, "I am about to die.

It is too cold for me up here, and I am freezing.

There is no food in these mountains, and I am starving.

Please put me under your coat and take me with you."

"No," replied the girl. "I know your kind. You are a rattlesnake.

If I pick you up, you will bite me, and your bite is poisonous."

"No, no," said the snake. "If you help me, you will be my best friend.

I will treat you differently."

The little girl sat down on a rock for a moment to rest and think things over.

She looked at the beautiful markings on the snake and had to admit that it was the most beautiful snake she had ever seen.

Suddenly, she said, "I believe you. I will save you.

All living things deserve to be treated with kindness."

The little girl reached over, put the snake gently under her coat and proceeded toward her grandmother's house.

Within a moment, she felt a sharp pain in her side.

The snake had bitten her.

"How could you do this to me?" she cried.

"You promised that you would not bite me, and I trusted you!"

"You knew what I was when you picked me up," hissed the snake as he slithered away.

Me-clueless BS Dday - 2/19/13 "This isn’t flying. It’s falling with style".Buzz Lightyear - Toy Story

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AFrayedKnot ( member #36622) posted at 12:21 PM on Wednesday, May 15th, 2013

Ouch...yea, me too

BS 48fWS 44 (SurprisinglyOkay)DsD DSA whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better."Knowing is half the battle"

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ItsaClimb ( member #37107) posted at 12:57 PM on Wednesday, May 15th, 2013

Yup, it scares me too. I feel SO vulnerable!

BS 52
Together 35 yrs, M 31 years
2 daughters 30yo(married with 2 children) & 25yo
D-Day 18 Aug 2012
6mth EA lead to 4mth PA with CO-W. I found out 8 1/2 yrs later

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ineedtoleave ( member #29332) posted at 2:47 PM on Wednesday, May 15th, 2013

That story really resonates with me... thank you.

BS(me)-52
WH-59
OW-43(married ex-Co-worker)
Married 6 yrs
DD#1: 3/19/10
DD#2: 5/11/10
Oh what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive.

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somanyyears ( member #26970) posted at 2:53 PM on Wednesday, May 15th, 2013

..turns out the world is full of snakes..

wearing sheeps' clothing.

smy

trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think! Me 77 Her 74 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!

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Zayda1 ( member #35387) posted at 2:54 PM on Wednesday, May 15th, 2013

Yes...

Married 10 years, together for 12 years
2 children (9 years & 6 years)
Discovery of PA 04/15/12 (It only lasted a "couple of weeks" but it still shattered my world.)

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SoVerySadNow ( member #36711) posted at 3:27 PM on Wednesday, May 15th, 2013

Exactly.

Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

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Suckerpunched66 ( new member #35700) posted at 4:22 PM on Wednesday, May 15th, 2013

EXACTLY!!

BS (me) 45
WS (the idiot) 42
DD 1 Feb 20, 2012
Married 16 years /together 20
2 beautiful 8yr old twins (b/g) My reason for living
TT until March 2012
numerous BJ's and 1 Day at a hotel where he threw it all away!

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mj052 ( member #38495) posted at 5:59 PM on Wednesday, May 15th, 2013

Wow- just wow!!!!

I feel the same- once bitten twice shy!! Waiting for the next betrayal to come my way!!!

Trust is a fragile thing- once its lost it's gone forever!!

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1devastedmom ( member #38399) posted at 10:08 PM on Wednesday, May 15th, 2013

Ouch, that's exactly how I've been feeling lately. I want to forgive and move on because I truly love him very much, but I'm so scared that he's going to "bite" me again.

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crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 10:11 PM on Wednesday, May 15th, 2013

I just discussed this in IC today. It's almost like I am permanently holding a part of myself back just in case I get bitten again.

fBS/fWS(me):52 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:55 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(22) DS(19)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Separated 9/2019; Divorced 8/2024

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Exit Wounds ( member #32811) posted at 10:20 PM on Wednesday, May 15th, 2013

Weird...just weird. I just dreamt of a snake two days ago...now this story.

God is trying to tell me something...I need to look deep within myself.

Thanks for sharing.

Exit WoundsH of 17 years got gf pregnant, left our kids 9 & 11 and we never saw him again. -His choice.

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