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twodoves posted 5/15/2013 10:01 AM

I keep going back and forth on typing it up, but i don't know where to begin.

The order i found out about the women in? Or the order they occurred?

The beginning of our relationship, or the beginning of the cheating?

I feel overwhelmed with information. There's just so much

TheClimb posted 5/15/2013 10:06 AM

I thought mine started when I found out about the affair. But looking back, I realized it began the day the OW's husband died.

Where you begin is not important, just writing it down will help.

Jrazz posted 5/15/2013 11:50 AM

There are no rules, twodoves. You just get to put out what's on your heart.

It kinda feels like a tornado in our brains in the beginning - you are under NO obligation to be coherent at this point.

(((twodoves)))

LonelyHusband posted 5/15/2013 13:12 PM

There's no right on wrong. Tell your story in your own words, in your own order, in your own time. Don't think about it, just write. We're here to help you, not judge your writing skills :)

If it comes out as complete incomprehensible gibberish then welcome to SI, you may be in a sad place but you are in good company :)

[This message edited by LonelyHusband at 1:14 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)]

hathnofury posted 5/15/2013 13:16 PM

It doesn't really matter, ust writing any of it down helps. I find writing things as they occur paints the most accurate picture, but of course you have to fill in the blanks with past events too. I look back at stuff I wrote a year or more ago and am amazed. There are details I forgot, things that seem so much clearer now that have have more info than they did back then. You write it however you want, it's all for your reference and healing!

Skan posted 5/15/2013 15:55 PM

Hey, if you can string two words together at this point, you're doing good. Put down what you know when you knew it. I cannot tell you how many times I came on here in a screaming panic and then found out what I thought was true wasn't because I had mis-heard or mis-understood something. For example, I thought that my FWH screwed his AP the night before our 20th wedding anniversary, a night in which I was jumped all over by one of his sports buddies. Turned out to be false. Still screwed her, but not the night before such an important date.

Just put pen to paper as it were and type. Sometimes just getting the words out and the feeling out is more important than a minute by minute re-hash. (((hugs)))

Skan posted 5/15/2013 15:55 PM

Hey, if you can string two words together at this point, you're doing good. Put down what you know when you knew it. I cannot tell you how many times I came on here in a screaming panic and then found out what I thought was true wasn't because I had mis-heard or mis-understood something. For example, I thought that my FWH screwed his AP the night before our 20th wedding anniversary, a night in which I was jumped all over by one of his sports buddies. Turned out to be false. Still screwed her, but not the night before such an important date.

Just put pen to paper as it were and type. Sometimes just getting the words out and the feeling out is more important than a minute by minute re-hash. (((hugs)))

NoMorDeceit posted 5/15/2013 16:11 PM

(((twodoves)))

I had 3 D-Days right in a row within a week and 5+ OW too, one was a 5 + year LTA....begin where ever works best for you. Whatever you feel you need to share to help make sense of the train that just barreled through your life. I am sorry you find yourself here.

[This message edited by NoMorDeceit at 4:11 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)]

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