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Just found out our final court date will be next Friday. Ironic, it's 2 years to the date that stxwh left me for ow for the first time....4 days after Dday. :-(

As much as I am ready for the end of the hellish roller coaster, I am mouring the end of the life we had. 15 years ago we were in love and pursuing our dreams of raising a family together. It's still very hard to believe that stbxwh's dreams have changed from being a dad with a family around him, to living with ow and living like he's 25 and single. Together it was always us against the world and everything would be okay as long as we were together. Now, it's just me trying to raise our children so they aren't damaged by the circumstances they had no control or affect on. It's going to be a sad day.

As I deal with my emotions, can anyone tell me what the final court date is like? We never had a temporary hearing because stbxwh started paying c/s voluntarily and we were just interested in moving things along. So, we've never had a court date. What happens? Do either of us have to say anything? I have an attorney, but stbxwh has opted to go unrepresented....he's not an idiot, we are both just trying to work together and be fair. I'm not attacking him and he knows it. I only have an attorney because I purchased my own home and car since this mess started I wanted to ensure these items stay mine with stbxwh having no input. I also want to be distanced legally from stbxwh financial mess. Anyway, any experiences to share?

((((movingfast))))

I just wanted to send you some support. My final court date was likely different from what you will encounter, as we had everything agreed upon, signed, and notarized before we went in. We ended up in the judge's chambers. He walked through the settlement agreement we had drawn up and made sure it was legal and enforceable and that we both understood what we had agreed to.

Then he signed it. It took all of 15 minutes for us and was very informal. From what I understand, my experience is highly unusual.

I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and will send you all kinds of court mojo. Hang in there.

NIK,
Thanks for your reply. I'm guessing ours won't be too much different than yours. We've already signed the Marital Settlement Agreement and I should be dropping off the signed Financial Statements this week. Everything is agreed upon and there shouldn't be any surprises. I was rather sad at how simple the process has been. It doesn't seem right that a marriage can end so quietly.

It did seem, well, anti-climatic? I was married for more than 24 years, and it was over with a brief chat and the signing of a decree.

(((((movingfast)))))