I am glad this question came up - I've been wondering something about the 180 and intended outcomes.
I know that posters often reiterate that the purpose of the 180 is FOR YOURSELF. But, frequently it is suggested when the BS is desperately seeking to re-connect/repair/save their relationship.
I think this causes confusion because then someone will often say that sometimes this will give the WS clarity and a taste of "bakery closing" and that can help knock a WS off the fence.
Would it be more clear if we talked about a step of "SHOCK AND AWE" for the knocking off the fence part - filing for D, immediate S, lawyers, whatever it takes... take no prisoners, lines in the sand, decisions in 20-seconds or less (him/her or me)... aka wearing bitch boots or big boy pants?
AND separate this activity from the 180 which truly is for the protection and mental health of the BS to:
I keep feeling like people hope the 180 will change their WS's attitude - despite repeated explanations to the contrary.
Just trying to clarify the process(es) in my own mind and hopefully help other JFO readers...