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tabitha95 posted 5/15/2013 17:52 PM

SO and I ended things today. We need to both figure some things out. I have been feeling forgotten and a non-priority to him(see other post) and it sets off all sorts of insecurities in me. I guess when I checked his phone about a month ago, which I never considered doing before, it made me feel horrible and sort of marked the end of things. Nothing was there, but still...that I thought I should look confirmed that I wasn't feeling secure.

His friend told me that he treats me better than any woman he has ever been involved with...and that was a big deal for him. Made me sad, because I'm not sure he treats me that great.

Anyway...I was sadder than I thought I would be after yesterday. Once it was official and we apologized to each other, it really broke my heart.

On to NB version 2. This time I need to figure some things out alone...which I should have done the first time.

[This message edited by tabitha95 at 5:53 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)]

Jrazz posted 5/15/2013 18:01 PM

(((tabitha95)))

cayc posted 5/15/2013 18:19 PM

It will be okay. 2.0 is always better than the beta version.

((((tabitha 95)))

nowiknow23 posted 5/15/2013 18:26 PM

(((tabitha)))

tabitha95 posted 5/15/2013 19:38 PM

This one is more of an uncertain feeling. With EX WH, d-day #2 was a deal-breaker.

I was married for almost 16 years and with him for a few years more. I'm not used to going through guys.

I guess it was the right thing...but I second guess myself. I keep thinking of what made me unhappy and how that overweighed what made me happy.

[This message edited by tabitha95 at 7:39 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)]

CheaterMagnet posted 5/15/2013 20:42 PM

Hang in there sweetie. It is hard. But Cayc is right. 2.0 is always better than beta.

(((((HUGS)))))

jo2love posted 5/15/2013 22:16 PM

(((tabitha95)))

InnerLight posted 5/16/2013 08:36 AM

Sorry to hear of your break up. It is a hard thing and there are definite withdrawal symptoms that cause a person to second guess themselves, but it sounds like you did the right thing. An hour long bus ride is really not that long when you want to see the woman you care about.

Take extra good care of yourself. Plan time with friends for fun. Schedule a massage. Do something you like to do that you've been putting off.

Spirit13 posted 5/16/2013 08:51 AM

sorry tabitha..... take care of yourself.

wonderingbull posted 5/16/2013 09:29 AM

For a while you'll second guess yourself and have conversations in your head about this or that... It will quiet down with some distance and time...

First things first... Put you first and get used to your new normal...

Take care...

WB

SoHappyNow posted 5/16/2013 09:47 AM

((((tabitha95))))

NaiveAgain posted 5/16/2013 20:09 PM

(((tabitha)))

persevere posted 5/16/2013 22:33 PM

Take of you (((tabitha)))

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