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tabitha95 (original poster member #22033) posted at 11:52 PM on Wednesday, May 15th, 2013
SO and I ended things today. We need to both figure some things out. I have been feeling forgotten and a non-priority to him(see other post) and it sets off all sorts of insecurities in me. I guess when I checked his phone about a month ago, which I never considered doing before, it made me feel horrible and sort of marked the end of things. Nothing was there, but still...that I thought I should look confirmed that I wasn't feeling secure.
His friend told me that he treats me better than any woman he has ever been involved with...and that was a big deal for him. Made me sad, because I'm not sure he treats me that great.
Anyway...I was sadder than I thought I would be after yesterday. Once it was official and we apologized to each other, it really broke my heart.
On to NB version 2. This time I need to figure some things out alone...which I should have done the first time.
[This message edited by tabitha95 at 5:53 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)]
BW (me) - 45
DS 14, DS 11
D-Day#1: Oct 30, 2008
D-Day#2: June 3, 2011 (same MOW) Separation: June 3, 2011
Divorce finalized: Feb 2012 (due to 6 month waiting period).
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 12:01 AM on Thursday, May 16th, 2013
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
cayc ( member #21964) posted at 12:19 AM on Thursday, May 16th, 2013
It will be okay. 2.0 is always better than the beta version.
((((tabitha 95)))
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 12:26 AM on Thursday, May 16th, 2013
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
tabitha95 (original poster member #22033) posted at 1:38 AM on Thursday, May 16th, 2013
This one is more of an uncertain feeling. With EX WH, d-day #2 was a deal-breaker.
I was married for almost 16 years and with him for a few years more. I'm not used to going through guys.
I guess it was the right thing...but I second guess myself. I keep thinking of what made me unhappy and how that overweighed what made me happy.
[This message edited by tabitha95 at 7:39 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)]
BW (me) - 45
DS 14, DS 11
D-Day#1: Oct 30, 2008
D-Day#2: June 3, 2011 (same MOW) Separation: June 3, 2011
Divorce finalized: Feb 2012 (due to 6 month waiting period).
CheaterMagnet ( member #33581) posted at 2:42 AM on Thursday, May 16th, 2013
Hang in there sweetie. It is hard. But Cayc is right. 2.0 is always better than beta.
(((((HUGS)))))
If Happy Ever After did exist, I would still be holding you like this.
All those fairly tales are full of shit.
One more fucking love song I'll be sick. ~ Maroon 5
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 4:16 AM on Thursday, May 16th, 2013
InnerLight ( member #19946) posted at 2:36 PM on Thursday, May 16th, 2013
Sorry to hear of your break up. It is a hard thing and there are definite withdrawal symptoms that cause a person to second guess themselves, but it sounds like you did the right thing. An hour long bus ride is really not that long when you want to see the woman you care about.
Take extra good care of yourself. Plan time with friends for fun. Schedule a massage. Do something you like to do that you've been putting off.
BS, 64 yearsD-day 6-2-08D after 20 years together
The journey from Armageddon to Amazing Life happens one step at a time. Don't ever give up!
Spirit13 ( member #31758) posted at 2:51 PM on Thursday, May 16th, 2013
sorry tabitha..... take care of yourself.
Men were deceivers ever; one foot in sea and one on shore, to one thing constant never.
wonderingbull ( member #14833) posted at 3:29 PM on Thursday, May 16th, 2013
For a while you'll second guess yourself and have conversations in your head about this or that... It will quiet down with some distance and time...
First things first... Put you first and get used to your new normal...
Take care...
WB
The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...
James Taylor
SoHappyNow ( member #8923) posted at 3:47 PM on Thursday, May 16th, 2013
In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer..Albert Camus--------73 now. Dday #1 was 11/11/05 ***Used to be hit-by-a-train*** Widowed, then VERY happily remarried 2/14/14
NaiveAgain ( member #20849) posted at 2:09 AM on Friday, May 17th, 2013
Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 4:33 AM on Friday, May 17th, 2013
Take of you (((tabitha)))
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
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