I am seeing a counselor and trying not to blame myself for not satisfying him and causing him to stray. I also am struggling with fantasies about telling the OW's husband or hurting her in some way (not physically, of course). This woman is such a narcissist that ignoring her as if she dropped off the face of the earth is the worst thing I could do. I'm sure her husband will eventually wonder why he doesnt see my family anymore, but I'm sure she'll tell him more lies. she's probably already having another A with someone else. Her husband had caught her years ago in a multi-year A.
so, here I am with a remorseful husband, trying to figure out if I'll ever be able to get over this betrayal. I feel like the worlds biggest idiot. My stomach feels like its a big knot and I can't sleep. Please tell me it gets better ?
fWH had ONS with High School Principal he met on Ashley.com. 08/25/2009
I think you should tell her H. One member put it to me like this. You never know what is going on in their M. The BS has the right to know and decide what to do with that information. You never know if that information is the last straw for them. Or if it is the validation they need for something they already suspect.
This is tough, I am sorry you are here.
I do question your husbands honesty with his confession...I get a hmmmm there is more to it feeling. Is your gut telling you there is more?
You just found out a week ago, so be prepared for a roller-coaster. The feelings will swing high low and everything in between. It's hard to just get through some days.
I am seeing a counselor and trying not to blame myself for not satisfying him and causing him to stray
Therapy is great, blaming yourself, not so much. This is his fault, not yours, ALL on him. He should get into therapy to find out why he would allow himself to have an affair to begin with.
My husbands affair was with my friend as well, so I understand the special kind of hell it creates. I do think you should tell her husband. He deserves to decide the fate of his life knowing the truth. I would think you would want the same if the shoe were on the other foot.
Take things slow, know you are NOT an idiot and we are here if you want to talk.