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Pass posted 5/15/2013 21:41 PM

Dammit! Contact for kids and finances ONLY!

She managed to slip in the fact that she just went to get a prescription for birth control pills, since she can't be assured that her next man will have had a vasectomy.

I broke down and started sobbing into the phone. She is so much better at pushing buttons than I am.

Some day I will learn to keep the conversation on topic.

SeanFLA posted 5/15/2013 21:49 PM

Why would you even converse with a person like that who clearly is trying to rub it in somehow? Don't speak to her on the phone. Email only and keep it business like.

PurpleRose posted 5/15/2013 21:53 PM

what an evil bitch.

For real, pass. She is just evil and vindictive. There is NO FUCKING REASON to tell you that, other than to inflict pain.

Fuck that Bitch and the asshole she rode in on.

SeanFLA posted 5/15/2013 22:01 PM

Yep that or tell everyone she knows what a slut she's turned into.

nowiknow23 posted 5/15/2013 22:01 PM

What the hell, pass? I've heard some stone cold crap in my time here, but this? Damn. That's just deliberately cruel.

(((((((pass)))))))

Nature_Girl posted 5/15/2013 22:02 PM

What a bitch!

5454real posted 5/15/2013 22:59 PM

Sorry brother. Again that feared word rears it's ugly head. Time will give you a much better perspective of what a stone cold bitch she really is.

Strength and Mojo to move through it.

Jrazz posted 5/15/2013 23:02 PM

(((pass)))

ButterflyGirl posted 5/15/2013 23:58 PM

A couple months after separation STBX mentioned in passing how HE needed to get a vasectomy. Cruel and vindictive NPD pieces of shit... More reasons to move on if you ask me!!

((((pass))))

Email only!!!!!!!!!!

[This message edited by ButterflyGirl at 12:00 AM, May 16th (Thursday)]

Kajem posted 5/16/2013 00:09 AM

((((Pass))))

I had to communicate thru email only...it helped my healing not hearing him.

Hugs,

K

veritas posted 5/16/2013 00:33 AM

My ex asked me to bring him to the vasectomy he refused to get while we were married, then yonked to me about how he knew who his real friends were because he was all alone. I recently got a text from him saying I was the best thing that happened to him ever. Duh... yeah. He's still the worst thing that ever happened to me, just like this psychobitch is to you.

Chrysalis123 posted 5/16/2013 08:22 AM

Pass (((Hugs))

When someone shows you who they are believe them....

Next time, she tries to contact you remember what she said about BC pills. Like everyone else said, she is cruel and vindictive and a danger to your emotional well-being and healing.

I do not answer the phone or physically meet and talk with the X nor anyone associated with him, that I feel he is using as a proxy to manipulate/abuse me. Email only.
Creates a great paper trail.

I know it doesn't feel like it now, but in time I hope you will see you get to get away from this and you get to create a life surrounded by people that care about you and value you for the wonderful man that you are.

[This message edited by Chrysalis123 at 8:23 AM, May 16th (Thursday)]

Linus1968 posted 5/16/2013 08:42 AM

Seriously, what word could describe what she did? Like others have said, just another way to show how cold and stupid a WS can be.

That is why my communication is text only. You should, too.

On the flip side, I hope the fluffy rainbow unicorns protect her from STDs during unprotected sex.

You're an interesting species, an interesting mix. You're capable of such beautiful dreams and such horrible nightmares. You feel so lost, so cut off, so alone, only you're not. See, in all our searching, the only thing we've found that makes the emptiness bearable is each other. - Contact

[This message edited by Linus1968 at 8:43 AM, May 16th (Thursday)]

Pass posted 5/16/2013 09:43 AM

Thanks everyone. I'm feeling much better today.

This isn't the first time that I've had so many people tell me what a bitch she has been. It started with the waitress who discovered me crying in a restaurant on D-Day.

In light of all I know now, I've been going back and mentally rewriting the history of my marriage. I may not have EVER been married to who I thought I was.

Sometimes that makes me sad; other times I'm relieved that I opened my parachute when I did, and am hopeful about my future.

Like Linus said, I hope the STD gods smite her down.

Faithful w/Love posted 5/16/2013 10:05 AM

I'm sorry (((pass)))
I know the hurt trust me I do.

ButterflyGirl posted 5/16/2013 10:19 AM

On the flip side, I hope the fluffy rainbow unicorns protect her from STDs during unprotected sex.

Some of those waywards are just as stupid as they are cruel and mean..

In light of all I know now, I've been going back and mentally rewriting the history of my marriage. I may not have EVER been married to who I thought I was.

I do this too. It's heartbreaking and sucks, but time to move on and start focusing on the future. As someone's tagline reads, "Don't look back. It's not where you are going."

Hugs!!

RyeBread posted 5/16/2013 10:26 AM

In light of all I know now, I've been going back and mentally rewriting the history of my marriage. I may not have EVER been married to who I thought I was.

Realized the same thing as well. It was then that I committed to get the heck out.

Sorry you had to hear that from her. Stay strong, pick yourself up and press on.

laney57 posted 5/16/2013 10:45 AM

I'm just sorry. Find YOUR way, she is an enemy, as is my WH. The only thing I am thankful for is my 2 great kids!

hurtbs posted 5/16/2013 11:18 AM

I'm so sorry Pass. How cruel.

My ex used to leave condom receipts on the dining room table when he knew I would be at the house.

I promise you, those little "tricks" will ultimately help you to build up a hard shell when it comes to being around her. Be forewarned that when you stop reacting, she will try new things and it will escalate. This is why NC is so important.

suckstobeme posted 5/16/2013 13:16 PM

She is a heartless slob. Honestly. I long for the day when you reach the land of indifference and these bitchy, cruel things she says just roll off your back. Until then, fake it til you make it. Don't ever give her one more opportunity to gloat in the face of your pain. She thinks she's special because you cry over her. That will end real fast when you start ignoring her. Show her just how special she really is - she deserves nothing from you ever again.

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