Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
I've definitely gone through the same, thinking of an ex-GF. I think more than anything, it was a way for me to accept my new life, while still holding on to something familiar.
Looking back, I have also realized that there are a LOT of similarities between her and my STBX. It appears that self-centred, cruel princess has been my "type".
So now that this ex is on your mind, enjoy the fantasies, but also do some good hard analysis on how well your picker is working.
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous