I guess ex hasn't changed the email address on his utility accounts. I got notifications of reconnect and payment for utilities (not in my name). Water and gas this time. These bills were in the *hundreds* of dollars (normally they're $10-25/month with rare exception). I'm so glad I'm not on these bills themselves. How pathetic that this grown man cannot run his own life. Who can't pay a gas bill? I get accidently forgetting one month, but I persistently get notices of collection or threats to turn off utilities or reposession. As I'm no longer on these accounts, I simply give them all of his contact info (work, home, cell, parents), and send them on their merry way. They don't call back. I assume they call his mommy & daddy and they handle the bill.
So glad I'm not dealing with *that* anymore. My Macy's bill didn't arrive this month and I was expecting it, so I called Macy's because I didn't want a late fee. Cuz I'm a fucking grownup and handle my shit. He seriously turns 40 this year and can't pay a bill - not because he doesn't have a job, he just seems completely incapacitated by the realities of life.
I'm sure that he and his family are finding a way of making this all of my fault. Had I not 'emotionally blackmailed him' for years (you know, by not being okay with his cheating and lying and making him own his shit), I wouldn't have forced him into adultery multiple times. And if I would have just been a better wife and tolerated his infidelities, then his life wouldn't be in the gutter. I'm such a bitch.
[This message edited by hurtbs at 11:24 AM, May 16th (Thursday)]
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012
"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid
