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Dadtryingtocope posted 5/16/2013 15:01 PM

So I hear through the grape vine my EW just got engaged to the AP. Of course she did. She just had her D finalized less than a month ago. Why wouldn't she get engaged now?

I don't know whether I should jump for joy, break down and cry. This is crazyness isn't it? I mean she was married 9 month ago to someone else. I don't get it. I'm half in shock. Who does this? What kind of message is this for my kids?

On top of that she is also trying to come after me for more money. Not a lot about $4k. But the D is done, I paid dearly already. I'm not looking to give her a wedding gift now.

I'm still trying to find a way off the crazy train.

Faithful w/Love posted 5/16/2013 15:18 PM

I'm sorry. I know it is a caught 22.
Big hugs to you.

hurtbs posted 5/16/2013 15:22 PM

Wow, they waited until their D's were official to get engaged? My ex got engaged to both OW within weeks of dating, before D's were even filed...

nowiknow23 posted 5/16/2013 15:22 PM

((((dttc & kids)))) It's unbelievable, isn't it?

7yrsflushed posted 5/16/2013 15:25 PM

Sorry DTTC. It is craziness but thankfully it's no longer your craziness.

Dadtryingtocope posted 5/16/2013 16:27 PM

Yes and thanks. I should of course not even care but somehow it is still troubling. Most of my close friends say it will self destruct. I guess we will see.

In the meantime, back to living my life the way I want to. :)

SBB posted 5/16/2013 16:39 PM

Sorry DTTC. It is craziness but thankfully it's no longer your craziness.

THIS.

In time you won't care what she does. You'll put it all in a general crazy pile and nothing will surprise you.

It is hard to see them make a train wreck of their lives but at least we can be thankful that we're no longer on that train.

Ask your friends to not tell you anything about her. I did and it really helped me detach.

Jayne Doe posted 5/16/2013 18:53 PM

I am so looking forward to your future posts of Karma stories.

You know they are coming

kernel posted 5/16/2013 19:23 PM

(((DTTC))) Just wow.

lieshurt posted 5/16/2013 20:14 PM

That's just more proof of how crazy she truly is now.

(((dad)))

ButterflyGirl posted 5/16/2013 20:46 PM

t/j

My ex got engaged to both OW within weeks of dating, before D's were even filed..

BOTH??

end t/j

hurtbs posted 5/16/2013 21:37 PM

Yes, his first "soul-mate." I discovered that A after a week and moved out. They were already talking of marriage. I do know it was a week because I found *all* of their emails - so I knew when it started/ended. We tried to reconcile.
Second A, before I filed he also proposed about two weeks after or so... maybe three?
That was the last OW. I don't know if they got married or not. I've heard conflicting information but haven't pursued it.

LifeIsBroken posted 5/16/2013 22:10 PM

At least your xw waited till the D was final. My now-xh proposed to the bimbo 3 weeks after their sexting began, before they had ever met in person.... because 'you have touched my soul, you have said words I've never heard before.' Guess he forgot he was already married at the time. OH - and the bimbo forgot she was married, too. Strange how that happens; maybe just another phase of the alien invasion. The day WILL come when you don't care what she's doing. I hope she fails at getting more $ from you. Sounds like you've already paid more than your share in more ways than one.

tryingagain74 posted 5/16/2013 22:23 PM

Oh, yes-- I'm waiting to hear about STBX's engagement any day now. He, of course, had to show my DD the ring... and we're not even officially D yet. Mine is behaving in the EXACT same way; I think the plan is for them to be married before the summer is out. The OW's also moving here from two hours away, and unless she's relinquishing custody of her kids to her XH (whom she must have either recently D or is not yet D from), she's bringing her two little kids with her to live with STBX. They're being forced to leave their home, their town, their schools, their friends so their mommy can marry a guy she met on Ashley Madison. Crazy train, indeed.

But yeah-- it's not our crazy. I'm also thankful for that.

ButterflyGirl posted 5/16/2013 22:43 PM

Can't help it, another t/j

They're being forced to leave their home, their town, their schools, their friends so their mommy can marry a guy she met on Ashley Madison.

Oh, the irony THAT one is crashing and burning for sure..

AND

Guess he forgot he was already married at the time. OH - and the bimbo forgot she was married, too. Strange how that happens

end t/j


Cause marriage is sooooo special and meaningful to them right DTTC? Cause THIS time they truly found "the one" who completes their broken hearts? What a bunch of bull.. And it's the kids who suffer the most, and they've got no fucking clue.. But you even have "dad" in your username, so it's obvious where your priorities are. They are so very lucky to have you..

And don't worry bro, you ARE off the crazy train, now you just having to stop watching it

Oh, and tell her to take that 4K bill and shove it up her ass. FTB..

bigpicture3236 posted 5/17/2013 00:01 AM

Of course she did. That is what selfish people do.
It does make it harder, but you will be ok. Now is your time. Make the most of it and yourself. You deserve it.
Good luck.

stronger08 posted 5/17/2013 04:28 AM

Bro do yourself a favor. Sit down, make some popcorn and watch the horror show thats sure to follow. Fuck her, dont give her another dime. The D is final and its hard if not impossible to get a modification after the fact. Her life is about to implode. She has chosen to enter a M with a confirmed cheat. And being one herself I cant help but laugh at what they both must be thinking. If you think any trust will be in that union your sadly mistaken. Personally I think they will both be in a rush to beat the other to the punch in the cheating department. Think of this as validation and redemption for you. Your rid of her cheating ass and she is now OM problem. Dude, I'll bet you my left leg that in a few months a good Karma story is going to be posted by you. Till then, enjoy the show my brother.

wannabenormal posted 5/17/2013 04:42 AM

Of course they're engaged; it's to prove their love is real.

It may or may not self-destruct; my advice is to NOT sit around waiting for that to happen.

You have some closure with this 'engagement' - concentrate on your new life. Easier said than done though.

How are the kids with all this?

[This message edited by wannabenormal at 4:42 AM, May 17th (Friday)]

Dadtryingtocope posted 5/17/2013 06:54 AM

Thanks all. I certainly won't sit around and wait for something to happen. But if something does, and according to statistics, it will, I will enjoy the downfall. She is nothing more than a cheating, lying, gold-digging bitch. I don't need to deal with her other than the kids and that is always contentious at this point.

She will not get any more money. She can take me to court and try and get it. I have proof there isn't anymore so good luck squeezing blood from that stone.

I can't wait for the day I don't care anymore. I still have anger and things like this certainly don't help. The continued selfishness is unbelieveable.

I have not talked to the kids about it. I'm sure since they have been around the two of them it is not a big deal to them. But when things go wrong, it could be a bigger deal.

I will just try and focus on my time with the kids doing what I can for them. When I have to deal with crazy bitch I will stick to NC. Just discuss kids needs and that is it.

SeanFLA posted 5/17/2013 07:23 AM

Ask your friends to not tell you anything about her. I did and it really helped me detach.

Yeah this really helps too. I've had to lay that law down with my own mother too. She was constantly asking about my ex in-laws and ex brother-in- law. Just stupid stuff about them, how and what they were doing, etc. I finally kind of blew up on her and told her that..."I'm doing everything in my power to get over these people to move on and all you do is bring them up...I'm still not that strong yet so will you please stop with it already."

It wasn't until then do I think my mother realized the pain and personal battle I was really going through by myself. She's never had to endure this kind of pain herself so she just doesn't understand it. I even asked my close friends not to talk about her to me when they did. They respected that and have been pretty good about it since. I know it's hard to do, but try not to let her have any more of your head space. Strive for indifference. She's an adulteress and that's what she will always be, married or not.

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