Oh for gawd's sake, Sam.
You must be a linear thinker. You know, an engineer-type-guy. That is the ONLY way you might be able to ignore your recent Dday and assume that if she's upset,it was about a basement light.
Your BW has been 'great lately'? I doubt it. She's been *nice* to you in expectation that you will step up to the plate.
Lately she's been telling you that she loves you, and yet you 'made a conscious decision' to NOT call her back?
Haven't you guys discussed this? I'm quite sure that she felt you understood that you should text her back immediately.
You joined here late last year. You cannot honestly believe she's so 'over this' that you can post about her being 'short' with you.
It sounds to me like she needs some loving (and I DON'T mean sex).
I'm married (happily) to a linear thinker, but I have to get in his face every once in a while.
Get out of your own skin. Think about your BW.
I just hate that all I am or do is a huge trigger for her. I can't stop visually being a trigger but go out of my way to try not to do things to cause a trigger. I feel so helpless. I just want it to all to go away for her and all the pain she feels to be on my back. She deserves that.
Get off your pity pot and get to work.
I'm proud of you for posting.