How do you split the costs? Or at the very least, how do you split the billing at the medical provider's business office? Or can you? I'm trying to envision how this will work in the future.
Most of my M life, I split the bills 50/50 with the X, even though he received twice as much as I did due to his disability pension. After d-day when he was feeling very guilty, I changed it to 1/3 for me and 2/3 for him. This stuck until the D, as we don't have minor kids or any shared expenses any longer.
If there's no legal reason for a 50/50 split and you can get his NPD ass to agree, I'd make it more fair in your favor. You can always revisit if you get a well-paying job.
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He is obligated to reimburse me 95%.
Send a request for reimbursement, a copy of the receipt/cancelled check.
Wait 30 days - file a violation in court.
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Dr's here will not bill him his half. I have to pay, and wait for him to reimburse me. I'm still waiting.
Get what you can upfront.. and remember that enforcement also costs money. So pick your court battles carefully.
I have to be honest, my children's counselor gave me a form for Snap (food stamps) and Medicaid. It's based on YOUR household income. THey won't have to be on it forever, but for now I have to do it to survive. I am hoping to go back to school and get a pell grant and student loan. I will take online clases this summer (to be home) and I will use the SL $ for my house payment for 3 months. Then, I gotta find a job or some children to watch here in the fall.
[This message edited by homewrecked2011 at 5:53 PM, May 18th (Saturday)]
me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
I make a good living, but he makes more. I received child support from him according to the calculation that my L and the judge agreed to making our household incomes almost equal.
I can pay for the kids, etc. Child support is auto withdrwan from his paycheck into my bank acct.
If you don't have temp orders for CS, get them. I haven't paid my L in a year because her portion is coming from his retirement withdrwal and bot attorneys are being paid from that.
I don't know if you have that. You should be able to pay for your kids from CS, which is separate from mortgage, etc.
I have the court order because my SAWH is NPD!
His lawyer mocked my desire to return to college, finish out a degree so I could have a career that pays more than minimum wage.
I have a feeling this is all going to end very, very badly for me & the children.
My SO has to provide medical insurance for the kids. They split any unreimbursed expenses as a ration of their respective incomes. Whomever pays the bill gets reimbursed with in 30 days.
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