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User Topic: a little serenity...
♀ 37879
Member # 37879
Default  Posted: 6:12 AM, May 18th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is where I go to find some peace when my mind just won't quit. I take some deep breaths, inhale the fresh, salty air and clear my head for a bit. When I'm overcome by anxiety and sadness, and it feels like I've lost all hope, It helps me to reboot my thoughts and see the world in a more positive light. Thought I'd share because some of you might need a little peace in your hearts too. What helps you center yourself when you're overwhelmed by life?

Eta: there was supposed to be a photo of the beach I visit nearly every morning. I guess it didn't post

[This message edited by cinnamongurl at 6:15 AM, May 18th (Saturday)]

Me: FWSO 39 He: FBSO 39 and my heart
Together 21 years. We survived infidelity. "Healing takes courage, and we all have courage, even if we have to dig a little to find it." Tori Amos

Posts: 611 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: by the sea with my love
♀ 37775
Member # 37775
Default  Posted: 6:36 AM, May 18th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, a beach would be an amazing place to go when overwhelmed with life! Lucky you!

I don't think I have a specific thing I do.

I use to talk to my BFF, but I quit because I seemed to overwhelm her with my shit (she is a BS and it would trigger her)

I come here and read SI. It helps knowing I am not alone.

I cry and just get it all out, then I realize the 'poor me' does no good.

Those days are not so often anymore, but they do still creep in...

BH Tred
M 19yrs
DDay Nov. 2011

Guns don't kill people; Affairs kill people

Posts: 451 | Registered: Dec 2012
♂ 38348
Member # 38348
Default  Posted: 8:05 AM, May 18th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I tell my BW about what I'm feeling.
I take a shower and meditate.
I read SI.
I channel my feelings into something more positive, like doing something beneficial for my family.

Me: WS 34
Her: BS 37 (HeartInADustpan)
DS: 7yo
M: 9 years
DDays: 2012/11/14-2013/02/05, 2013/03/09, 2016/02/19

Posts: 824 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: St. Louis
♂ 38109
Member # 38109
Default  Posted: 8:08 AM, May 18th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I too come to SI. I also reflect on my latest IC session which reminds me that I'm working on myself. I talk to my BS who is a great listener despite all the pain I've caused.

Me: 47 BS: Cheerless (not giving her age)
DDay 12/31/12
30 days of TT WRONG - try 17 months
2 great teenagers
I had a LTA - EA and then PA. Escalated in 2012.
Never Giving Up Hope
The secret of life is to "die before you die" - Eckhart Tolle

Posts: 92 | Registered: Jan 2013
♀ 36853
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Default  Posted: 9:22 PM, May 18th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I too talk to my BH and take a dip in my big bath tub.

I would love a beach though.

We lived right on a beach in the Caribbean for two bath tub then but I definitely prefer the beach.

fWW 40s, BH 40s
D-day 27 Aug 2012. Kids 25, 17, 13. 2 dogs.

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Profoundly grateful Every. Single. Day. that I am blessed with an H with strength, integrity, and compassion, and that he decided to try.

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