My stbxww and I engaged a family divorce counselor to meet with our kids to better understand their concerns and desirs post divorce.
Afterwards I talked to DS who said "I should live with you and visit mom on weekends. DD should live with mom"
In the spirit of openness and information sharing to settle in on parental roles post D, I later shared this comment with stbxww.
The next day I am hanging out with DS and he menitons mom trying to persuade him and that stbxww said "why do we have to break up or family". Reality bites!