Maybe it'll help someone now as much as it helped me before.
Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel Like you're less than, less than perfect
The typical passive aggressive man has not worked through his anger and power issues with his parents so he replays them in current relationships. His anger comes out in passive way of avoidance.
Eye opening.
He may be a workaholic, a womanizer, hooked on TV, caught in addictions or self-involved hobbies.
Married: 11 years, no kids
Character is destiny
ds5, ds7
Took a while, but I like the me I am, without him.
That article describes the 'good' years in the M once the rush of new luurve faded 2 years into it.
A decade wasted. How sad. I cannot believe I lived like that for so long.
Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.
Life's good.
Trying to understand the behaviour of some people is like trying to smell the number 9.
Also, he likes to not talk about things that bother him if it helps anybody...he will stew on things and keep them inside and then when he can handle no more, BAM!!! That's the PA part.
The combo of PA/NPD are stunning and I will say, beware.
One clue I have now is if a person doesn't bicker/argue...and I mean a not terrible bicker, but inserting their opinions from the beginning.
And, if you're with someone who always lets the other person have their way and says nothing, don't let this happen. I promise. It will bite back, over time, if it's a PA/NPD person.
Well, I went down the list of people in his gynormous family and my smaller one and made a list of the couples. It's terribly interestin to be able to pinpoint the NPD's and CoD's. Amazingly, everyone of the siblings is the Narc in that family...but none of them know it! They just know they can't function together and get along!
And the divorce/unmarried rates are phenomenal too.
Good post, thanks.
You gave me nothing and now it's all I've got - Bono
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.
-George Washington
I also have found that the people who try to be the doormats or give in all the time eventually burst, as well. I think it can only be done for so long, like anything else?
His script is ‘Be here for me, but don't come too close and don't burden me with your needs or expectations.'
Weeeellllll...fuck. That sums up my ten years with ex-shat. I'm so happy that I don't have to deal with that person anymore...ok, almost don't have to deal with him anymore. At least now I can hire a lawyer to deal with his P-A ass.
