Me- SAHM 30yo BS
WH and I had reached a tentative separation agreement where we hashed out everything we could think of and put it on paper. The one thing we didn't formally write down was about the cars. He took back my car, which had a loan in his name, and reluctantly gave me a car from his car business. A beater piece of shit, but whatever. My dad had promised me a minivan in a few weeks (two months ago) so I figured I could deal with it, and told WH that I only needed it for a month. Well my dad changed his mind and I told WH that I was keeping the car indefinitely, I was entitled to one anyway and that he didnt' get to walk away from the marriage with three cars and leave me with none. Well, he cut me off financially and hasn't given me any money in two weeks. I told him that until he started paying for the kids, he didn't get to see the kids. (If they asked for or missed him I would back down immediately but until that point I'm holding my ground). Well, it's been a week and nothing. I guess he cares more about the point of pride that is this beater POS that I use to get my kids to and from school and sports than he does about seeing his children that he professes to love oh, so much.
I applied for every state program I could but there's a hold up now bc I am a permanent resident alien and they want me to have a new card, which costs $450 and takes 4-7 months to get. So I'm screwed there now.
The rent hasn't been paid since March and without these state programs I don't have a hope of paying them. My mom has put her house on the market to move into a mother daughter that my children and I will move into with her, but I can't move in with her until then.
The person I thought was going to loan me the retainer for my lawyer said he doesn't want to "get involved" and has declined. If I file, WH is going to show up to court with lawyers, the OW's family is all lawyers and I'm going to get completely screwed on everything.
My in laws have taken offense to the idea that I plan on keeping my same last name once divorced and have started sending me horrible text messages saying how OW is the true *insert last name* and that I need to stop being pathetic clinging onto a family that wants nothing to do with me anymore. I have no intention of going back to my maiden name, I will not have a different last name than my children.
I tried to call WH this morning to see if he wanted to try to talk this thing out and I got the OW's voice mail. I guess WH is busy and he forwarded his phone lines to her. Last thing I wanted to hear this morning, ugh.
I just don't get how I became the enemy, I just needed a car to drive my kids around. I'm entitled to one, it's not an unreasonable request. But I guess it warrants being completely financially cut off.
Sorry for the woe is me, feeling sorry for myself post. I'm just feeling so beaten down today, and the rainy Monday isn't helping.
Him- 32yo WS
Three kids, 9, 7, 10mo
Their baby was born in Sept and they are happily househunting. He finally left 4/03.