Oohh, I'm sooo sorry! I think I understand your thoughts behind not telling anyone what you were doing, but I would have considered it.
Like, I have one person I tell everything too, especially right now, who is a relative and no chance Perv will get to the information. I wish you had a similar source so that there was back-up for you somehow...I don't know if that will make sense to anyone.
I'm sorriest for your child, it's so darn awful for them, isn't it? I work so hard to not involve DD and I wish everyone would, but I know feelings and emotions make us do things we may not normally. No excuse though.
That bit strikes me as some possible revenge on his part, hurting you through your children when there isn't much else to do it with. Perv does that, FWIW.
It's a terribly difficult process because I think we don't even realize that during D process, we are under a microscope, but I believe that we are. You know, people ask me if I am going to look for dates and I just don't see it right now...in part from being pregnant and in part from the crap that Perv would throw at me if he learned of it.
I wrote some of my stuff just to say I think some things are in common and I also wish you well.
I hope that MOW can be an ally but not get you in anymore trouble, somehow.
It seems to be a semi-chronic phenomenon where people who cheat oftentimes will accuse us of things they are actually doing. FWIW, this has been done to me and was absolutely stunning.
Peace to you.
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.