Honestly. What the fuck?
I've now heard three pretty crappy things that the kids say he has said about me.
First, it was that mom has all the money. Quite shitty considering I've WORKED for it and didn't piss it away on a skanky boyfriend, alcohol or gambling. I'm sorry he chose to divorce while his kids were little and that child support is a necessary in his world. Too fucking bad. But, my finances are none of his business and even less of my children's business.
Second, he took a shot at my yard. I live in the last house we bought together, which was the biggest and most expensive. I took over the mortgage myself and have worked hard to keep this property up. My yard is not huge, but it's very pretty. He spent a lot of money on what amounts to a glorified apartment but keeps harping on the fact that it has a very large yard. Fine. Great. I've never said a word. All of a sudden, I find out that he made some snotty comment to the kids about how my yard is a lot smaller than his. Again, wtf?
Finally, he took a shot at me. I've always joked with my kids about my age. They think I'm a lot younger than I am. Well, they must have said something to him and instead of just smiling or indulging them, he has to correct them, tell them my real age and then take a shot about how that's how old I really look.
What the fuck?
I have consistently taken the high road and say nothing about him, the OW, his house, or the way he looks, which is a lot shittier and older than when we were married. And this is the thanks. I get jabbed through my own kids.
This is what he wanted. This is how he wanted to live. So just leave me the fuck alone!!!!!!!
BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.