Your tag line says you got 'full disclosure on 4/16/13'; however, do you feel you really did? The questions you have, are they as a result of processing what you've already heard, or do you feel you got the outline of a full disclosure without the full details? Just trying to get a sense of the situation. (I did read your profile.)
If he gave you a pretty detailed full disclosure and your questions are a result of processing, then I know you want an answer NOW. Fortunately, in my case, my FWH was pretty good about handling the seemingly out of the blue A trivia questions. So if you're not getting the same without it escalating, it has to be very frustrating.
If, however, you feel you got the Cliff Notes version of a full disclosure, perhaps something more is needed. In our case, my FWH wrote out a chronological narrative of his secret history, a method recommended by his IC. This gave time for one memory to bring out another memory etc. until the story was pretty much complete. We scheduled a double MC session at which he read it to me. After this, questions would come up, and I'd ask them as they did. The MCs did suggest (after a period of time) that we set aside a time each week to discuss questions or other A-related stuff so as to keep it confined. Sounds good in theory but I could never do it.
I doubt you need anger management. You have plenty to be angry about!! I wasn't angry, and had no anger issues. RAGE, on the other hand...that was a problem. I highly recommend exercise as an avenue to reduce the furious energy.
You deserve to know what was really going on in your life and it's your H's duty to fill in the blanks. He needs to understand that he made conscious choices that caused extreme hurt, damage, and anger. If he wants you to continue to try and R, he needs to now choose to brave the fire he set and deal with the emotions his previous selfish choices spawned.
Best of luck. R is not often a course of steady improvement. The best analogy I've is that it's more like the game, 'Chutes & Ladders'. Yup.
Edited to add a few words; sorry if it's choppy, I can't seem to write & edit myself at the same time when others are in the room (which seems pretty often, since my desk's in the LR!).
[This message edited by sad12008 at 4:41 PM, May 20th (Monday)]