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User Topic: I must be strong
♀ 37451
Member # 37451
Default  Posted: 9:25 AM, May 21st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

somehow even while we are living together I have to detach.

He is not willing to give me what I need. Will not even try to find out. Keeps blaming my pain on my childhood. That it is not from his betrayal.

I am going to work on me. I will not worry any longer if I am meeting his needs.

It is up to him to take responsibility if he so chooses.

I he chooses not to we are done. I will not just pretend that all is forgiven.

Forgiveness cannot be given without remorse.

"So often times it happens, that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key"

I would now like to be known as Can!

dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh deleted
I attempted R, he was a lie


Posts: 2355 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Connecticut
♀ 38391
Member # 38391
Default  Posted: 9:26 AM, May 21st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are completely and totally right.

Many hugs to strong you.

D-Day 11/15/12
5 month PA
Married 20 years, 3 kids
All good is hard. All evil is easy. Dying, losing, cheating, and mediocrity is easy. Stay away from easy.
- Scott Alexander
It was the day I thought I'd never get through - Daughtry

Posts: 1142 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: FL
♂ 31240
Member # 31240
Default  Posted: 2:14 PM, May 21st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

amen, and you ARE strong.

fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 70 (22 in my head), Married 45+, together since 1965, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Largely recover'd and R'ed
I'm not an exemplar. I share my own experience because it's all I know.

Posts: 12381 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
♀ 38384
Member # 38384
Default  Posted: 5:19 PM, May 21st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((cantaccept)) This can be your new prayer - Keep saying it!Post it where you can see it everyday!


I read this one this site: You don't need the bus to back over you after its already run you over.

Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 3396 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
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