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sri624 (original poster member #33956) posted at 4:27 PM on Tuesday, May 21st, 2013
this morning i am having horrific mind movies. i discovered his secret email around dday....and in those emails, i found pictures of the 2 of them, they were together laying on the beach...looking in the camera, both smiling with sunglasses on...him snuggled up behind her. then another one of her sitting on his lap at her apartment....he is grabbing her face...kissing her. then others of her in her underwear that she took of herself.
this is so very painful for me today....
i hacked into his account to find these....i found the truth about everything...this was a while ago..but those pictures are burned into my mind.
he lied about the extent of their affair...saying that they never spent any real time together....he lied. they went to the beach. i was pregnant at the time.
oh....how this hurts so deeply.
i wonder who took the pictures.
BS (41):(Former Doormat)
WS (39):(Busted Cheater)
Married: 10 years, 3 kids under 5
DD1: 10/11 PA/EA with pilates instructor/former stripper.
DD2: 10/12 False r, cheating with other women, online dating,Substance abuse issues.
R:Last chance
Offhispedestal ( member #32528) posted at 4:38 PM on Tuesday, May 21st, 2013
Did you just find these pictures?? If yes, why in the hell does he still have them?? There is no reason what so ever that he should have them in his email. I know just how much this hurts. I saw many many naked pictures, I saw a pic of her sitting on my H lap, they went to some antique shops. I wondered who took the pics as well. During false R he still had them on a memory card. I knew he had them hidden somewhere and he was an asshole about it telling me " I will get rid of them when I'm ready. Or "I have these as security if she decides to get me in trouble at work"
A few months after that I was making zero progress and WS really in a bad place. He constantly wanted us to move forward until one day I told him.
" you want me to let go and move ahead in R? To move ahead you can't expect us to drags all those painful reminders with us. You need to let every picture, gift GO. He had that moment and just said " you are right " he went and got the memory card and wanted us to burn it together. He got rid of every thing he could think of that she bought or he bought while being with her.
ME-48
WH-49
Married 27
2Beautiful daughters
DD 6/26/10 (he broke down & confessed)
DD#2 3/14/11 H in OW's car
TT 7/1/11 (NC broken, through emails)
In R
sri624 (original poster member #33956) posted at 4:43 PM on Tuesday, May 21st, 2013
thanks for the reply....i found the email a long time ago. he deleted the pictures and the secret email account...a long time ago. this was after i emailed him all of the pictures of the 2 of them together....letting him know that i found the secret email account. this was last year..but the pictures are still in my mind.
i hope he felt like a complete idiot when i sent the pictures to him.
BS (41):(Former Doormat)
WS (39):(Busted Cheater)
Married: 10 years, 3 kids under 5
DD1: 10/11 PA/EA with pilates instructor/former stripper.
DD2: 10/12 False r, cheating with other women, online dating,Substance abuse issues.
R:Last chance
Offhispedestal ( member #32528) posted at 6:28 PM on Tuesday, May 21st, 2013
I'm sure he felt like digging a hole and jumping in when he realized what you found and saw.
The pictures are still pretty fresh in my brain as well.
They do start to fade. I tell you this because I remembered what MOW was wearing and now I only remember how they posed.
It sucks period
ME-48
WH-49
Married 27
2Beautiful daughters
DD 6/26/10 (he broke down & confessed)
DD#2 3/14/11 H in OW's car
TT 7/1/11 (NC broken, through emails)
In R
brokensmile322 ( member #35758) posted at 6:31 PM on Tuesday, May 21st, 2013
Me BS 42 Him WS 44
OW Coworker DDay April 7, 2012
EA on a slippery slope...
When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Viktor Frankl
"When you are happy, you can forgive a great deal."
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