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User Topic: friendship or more?
cali1002
♀ 39270
Member # 39270
Default  Posted: 10:49 AM, May 21st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My H insists that a very close friendship was never physical. Iím not sure I believe him. Any ideas on how to find out the truth? If I ask he says they were just friends. My story is on my profile. It is a little long, but will provide more details.


Me - BS 44
Him - WH 52
Kids - 11 and 12
DDay - May 2012
Married 14 years
In Reconciliation

Posts: 42 | Registered: May 2013 | From: United States
somanyyears
♂ 26970
Member # 26970
Default  Posted: 12:39 PM, May 21st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


..from your profile, i see a man who has been chasing anything in a skirt, trying to get some on the side..

..and using his position in the workplace to manipulate his co-workers.

..too many instances of 'other' women and he's playng the 'just friends' card to explain it away!!

..i'd call bullshit to his denials..

so sorry you are here..

smy


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf


Posts: 4134 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: the sad state of affairs
cali1002
♀ 39270
Member # 39270
Default  Posted: 1:08 PM, May 21st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks, somany. It seems like I want to believe that there isn't more, but the pieces don't really support that. I don't know. But why should I stay with him if there is more? I don't want to be married to a slim ball. Our kids would be devastated if we split up.


Me - BS 44
Him - WH 52
Kids - 11 and 12
DDay - May 2012
Married 14 years
In Reconciliation

Posts: 42 | Registered: May 2013 | From: United States
pewpewpew
♀ 38116
Member # 38116
Default  Posted: 2:16 PM, May 21st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

They are always "just friends".
Even with solid proof - they try to minimize and go into damage control.

I'm so sorry you have found yourself here.


ME: 32
WH: 36
DDay: July 9, 2012

Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, pack your shit and get out.

Fool me once - Shame on you. Fool me twice - pack your shit and get out.


Posts: 310 | Registered: Jan 2013
libertyrocks
♀ 38924
Member # 38924
Default  Posted: 3:55 PM, May 21st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's what my H said. Just friends. The next week, oh, they had sex once. 3 months later, 5 OW PA's in 2 years. Then, just a month ago, 7OW in 3 years with a LTA of over a year.

Sorry, you're here with us.


Me-BW 36. STBXH-35,Recovering Alcoholic, M6yrs T13. Boys 2 & 4 1/2.
DDay #1 Nov,2012. 1 1/2 year false R & TT. 10 OW PA's 1LTA (W lied to) 3 years.
S Nov, 2013 again Jan,2014
Filed for D Feb,2014.

Posts: 962 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: So Cal, baby. :)
avicarswife
♀ 35799
Member # 35799
Default  Posted: 8:56 PM, May 21st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There is always a polygraph. If he is telling the truth I would think he would jump at the opportunity.

If he agrees - make sure you follow through.


BS: 47 (me)
WH: 51
Married 26 yrs, 3 kids (16-24)
D-Days 2012: 23 - 24 May + TT
D-Day 2013: 12 Apr OW#3
mOW #1 EA yrs PA Feb 2009-end 2011
mOW #2 EA months PA 4 months 2010
OW #3 PA single time 2010
Status: Maybe 'R'

Posts: 730 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: "down-under"
OptimisticWife
♀ 36587
Member # 36587
Default  Posted: 5:23 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My H was claiming "just friends" also. He probably never would have admitted the truth.

Posts: 190 | Registered: Aug 2012
Topic Posts: 7

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