I'M ON THE FENCE
my give a damn is busted
I am better than her because I honored my vows of marriage with respect, honor, love and integrity.
CUMBUCKET is not an honorable person. She broke her own marriage vows, defiled her H and her children and had 50% in defiling my marriage with my H and trying to break my family up. Our children were devastated to learn their father hurt me so deeply. She was also dishonorable according to the Uniform Military Code of Justice of the USA.
So when you ask if she is better than you, the answer is NEVER, NO WAY, NOT POSSIBLE, CANNOT BE, NO HOW!!!
It shouldn't matter what your physical features are, your spouse promised to love, honor, and cherish you for YOU!
They broke that, not you!!!
I've been thinking today about a co-worker I knew decades ago when I was young and sort of cute. He'd had an A simply because the OW was willing and he'd been amazed that someone found him attractive. He and his wife were trying to reconcile but that wasn't good enough for him and the guy decided he was in love with me just because I was nice to him (and that's as far as it went with me and I stopped even talking to him after his declaration of love). I now realize he was broken and so needy of validation that he would take it anywhere he could get it.
There are probably things an impartial observer would say is "better" about the AP. And some things which would be "better" about you. Try not to think that way because it truly, truly, truly isn't about that. Just think of her as a mirror reflecting back the man your H wishes he really was.
This is the 4th time you have been flagged for breaking the forum descriptions.
This is NOT a vent about the OP, please respect the sites rules and post accordingly.
I remember asking H what it was about her that made him want to cheat. His honest answer was there wasn't anything special about her. He didn't even really like her. It was all about him. How bad he felt about himself, how bad he thought our life was, how crappy he felt his job was.
He wanted to escape reality. The day to day trudge of a family and marriage.
Looking at the OW, I see that she is a sad person. She's married now and her H knows about the A. It's hard to believe he married her anyway. If she has any conscience now, and I hope she does, I hope she feels guilty the rest of her life.
would you want to know if she was in some way better than you?
Better than me? Never.
How could she be? She is a cheater with no integrity... Not to mention her 2 DUI's, her lock up for public intoxication, her being expelled, many years ago, from college.
Better than me? I think not.
[This message edited by RidingHealingRd at 8:27 PM, May 21st (Tuesday)]
The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.