First, glad you all had a good time in Niagra. Having a good time and reconnecting has a way of 're-writing' some of pain out of your brain.
Hell - I hope she wins the lottery and retires early!!
ANYTHING!!! Just so that she beats a retreat from your WH!!!
But seriously, I know what that is like, you and him against the cOW...It feels weird because of how he can turn on a dime and shove her under the bus...HUMMM
But really if you must face cOW as couple, joining forces to stay NC...well...it is a start.
Like another poster said, once you become comfortable with his ability to be NC, the conversation could shift to the two of you.
This happened with Mr. Happy and I. cOW worked with him. Stupid had her in his employ for 5 years!!! UGH!
I didn't figure out the A until it had ended a year before DD.
I put my foot down and he had to get rid of her. So He had to bid his time while the job wound down. Then he had to speak to his manager to make sure that she was not picked up for the next job. That was tricky. And too much of our energy for cOW!!
I was crazy while he worked with her!!!!! CRAZY!
We texted back and forth all through that last job. And he withstood all of my crazy and still kept me informed.
Eventually the convo stopped being about her and became about us.
That really helped me see that he was thinking about ME. I needed that. All that energy towards her and the time it took to sneak around was killing him!
He said it is nice to not feel dirty anymore.
I guess what I am rambling about is that your WH really wants you to know that he is following through and is staying NC.
OH, just give him a cookie!
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...
Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.