Lately I have actually been throwing up sometimes. My stomach is always upset, but never to the point of throwing up, except when I was pregnant (miscarried in Jan). I thought for sure I was pregnant, but I've taken two home tests (I know, they can be wrong) and they were both negative. So maybe it could be because the thrush won't go away, or maybe ulcers, or maybe the tests were wrong? who knows.
This morning when I woke up, my stomach was upset, but I didn't feel like throwing up. I was feeling sad to begin with (and cold because I was soaking wet) and WBF got out of the shower and came out to get dressed. I watched him, just looking at him as he was getting dressed and all of a sudden, I was watching him get dressed after having sex with someone else. He looked so comfortable, not caring about his nakedness (I don't like my nakedness), and I just thought about how he was probably just like that with her. I thought about her laying in her bad and watching him, just like I was doing, and my stomach rolled over, and I thought I was going to throw up.
I feel bad even suggesting that my physical problems are his fault, but I was starting to wonder. I'm so heartbroken over this whole situation and I guess I was just wondering if anybody has had physical ailments that they know came about because of the stress involved with dealing with an A situation.
Have you had a full physical to rule out other problems (other than stress, that is?) Very likely stress could be causing your issues but you want to be sure there's nothing else going on. Have you been going to counseling? Maybe consider an anti-depressant? Depression can make your body hurt.
Yeah, the stress of this all has been killing me.
For 12 years I didn't throw up. I was proud of having an iron stomach. I'm constantly getting nauseous and sick to my stomach anymore. Just last week I caught some sort of stomach virus and spent a few days making the toilet my new best friend. Today? I am congested and have a cough. I feel like I just can't win.
It sucks. I have such a weak immune system anymore. I'm a migraine sufferer and the frequency of them has increased dramatically as well. I'm physically weak from being sick all the time. I'm sore all over constantly.
Of course I've also aged a bit. My hair line has noticeably changed. I have lines in my face, some grey hairs. My weight has fluctuated. This shit reeks havoc on the body.
My wife's infidelity has taken a tremendous toll on me physically and it is obviously having long lasting effects.
Surrender to the truth of life.
I guess I know the depression, weight loss, and sleeping problems are stress related. The miscarriage could be any number of medical reasons, but I don't rule out the fact that I was so upset the whole time and cried all day every day.
I will be going back and I will talk to her about my stomach and the night sweats, I just wanted to see what others thought. When I was laying in bed this morning I thought it felt like there's something eating my insides, killing me. My whole body just feels sick. That's when it dawned on me that maybe it's me. Maybe I'm killing myself by being so devastated by something that somebody else did and something that I have no control over.
Maybe that's why I feel bad "blaming" him, if I was stronger, maybe it wouldn't be so bad.
if I was stronger, maybe it wouldn't be so bad.
Stop that. NOBODY is strong enough to handle infidelity without some physical symptoms. Please do get a complete physical but if this is stress, then maybe you need to reconsider R? Maybe the stress is because you've suppressed the part of you that wants to run far, far away and your body is so strong that it refuses to be refused? The fight or flight syndrome is a powerful force designed to reduce stress. Maybe you need to pick one--fight or flight.
seems to me that we have lost this "knowledge" somehow and expect our bodies to just "man up" during tramas.
Also seems to me that people (in general) have forgotten about love and care being an integral part of healing, but instead focus on the body as if separate from the whole and prescribe meds or diet or exercise and leave out what the soul needs.
The mind is truly powerful and can do amazing things in regard to healing IMO, but how can it if it is broken into bits?
discovered 4 month long EA
R - slow and steady but very optimistic
I had read that weight loss could be extreme the 1st year after Dday. I have been very thin normally so I worked hard to prevent weight loss. Well, 12 months later the after A effects got worse, some very traumatic things happened, I got very sick, and had to keep working. On my 3rd yr. now, post DD and dealing with other big stress related issues, still can't gain weight, and still have new triggers that pop up. And now I am affected by stressors even more so.
We must take care of ourselves more than ever.
[This message edited by Thinkingtoomuch at 12:33 PM, May 22nd (Wednesday)]
I'm just sick of feeling like crap. I haven't been working (been going to school), but with summer here, I need to get a job, and I just don't even feel like I can do it! I'm afraid I'm not going to be able to make it through a shift without crying or puking or something.
PeaceLove, I understand what you are saying, but I really have no desire to run far away. I have decided to fight. I have decided that I have spent too much time and energy on this guy over the last 13 years to let some other woman have him now, he's come way too far and it was me that got him there. Now he's an even better BF than ever because he realizes the need for communication and WORK in a relationship. I will not let someone else benefit from that, as it took MY pain for him to come to this realization.
I just wanna know how to feel better and not let my mind mess with my body so much, I guess.
I never thought of the medication, but it could make sense. I've had stomach problems with birth control pills in the past. This is the third time I've taken it, and it didn't bother me the first two times, but maybe now it's just gotton to be too much?
I just finished the pills (and no, I didn't take them with food, I can never eat in the morning when I was supposed to take them) so I'll see if it gets better, maybe.
Any idea why thrush just won't leave me alone?
Unlike many I have gained weight - my desire is to lose. I lost 20 pounds last year (before D day) with a lot of hard work. Of course I have had a hard time finding the motivation to work out. Have started the last few weeks, but will have a bad day, eat like crap and put back on a couple of pounds.
For a week or two after D day my tooth was killing me. It is a crown and I figured it was infected or something. Dentist could not find anything wrong - then he asked how my stress level was - BINGO!
Also during my check up with Dr, he said my blood pressure was high, I responded "not surprised" and he asked why. Figured he had a right to know what was impacting my health.
I had planned on taking up swimming
and maybe try a mini triathlon event. That went out the window after D day. I have sort of concluded that I wil write off this first year.
On the other hand WW had her best run the day after D day!
his is the third time through medication to get rid of thrush, I dont know why its not going away.
Any idea why thrush just won't leave me alone?
But I'm not a doctor.
This is personal, but oral reinfection could play a part I would think if you're intimate with your partner.
We all have a weak spot in our immunity and it's different for each of us. I had shingles in 2003 and it was excrutiatingly painful for months with lingering pain for 7 more years. But after Dday, at least not that, thank God, but like I said, it has caught up with me including bad bronchitis for months in 2nd year, and recently extreme stress symptoms and a thyroid scare last month.
All stress induced.
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but with summer here, I need to get a job, and I just don't even feel like I can do it!
Do you really NEED a job? What I mean is there urgency, a financial need, or do you just need to have a job? If there is not urgency or dire financial need then I would say to try and find a "fun" job or a job that you can maybe lose yourself in, instead of a job you HAVE to have to make ends meet.
If you can find something you enjoy, something that can nurture you, something that allows you to escape a bit from the pain, that would help, but definitely not something that will add to your stress level if possible.
Also, I hate to say it, but I too have dealt with the yeast issue being re-infection, and that is worth looking into imo