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lostmommy posted 5/23/2013 10:44 AM

After over a year and a half battle, my divorce was final on 4/10. He married OW on 4/20. Isn't that cute?!

I filed for bankruptcy as well and that was final on 5/10, and honestly I haven't felt this happy and free in a long time.

We still fight over visitation, mainly because he doesn't understand what's written in the agreement. I've suggested that he get a lawyer or take me back to court so we can get it spelled out for both of us, and of course he won't do either. So he just makes me out to be the bad guy. The issue at the moment is summer visitation - he's supposed to get 2 weeks non-consecutive in the summer, and what he asked for was 4, and a lot of that time piggybacked onto his regular visitation so I wouldn't see my toddler for 10+ days at a time...I said no. Proposed new dates that were fair, but because I didn't give him everything he wanted he took his toys and went home, and decided not to take him for anything other than his alternate weekends. But somehow that makes me the bad guy.

Anyway, I'm divorced, bankrupt, single, and happy as a pig in shit. I haven't felt this free in a very very long time. Time does indeed heal.

nowiknow23 posted 5/23/2013 10:45 AM

I'm divorced, bankrupt, single, and happy as a pig in shit. I haven't felt this free in a very very long time.
What a wonderful perspective, lostmommy. Congrats on your new life.

lostmommy posted 5/23/2013 10:46 AM

Thank you!

Vulcanized posted 5/23/2013 11:02 AM

Congrats & best of luck on your new life.

tryingagain74 posted 5/23/2013 13:16 PM

I'm happy for you-- glad that your D is final. Looks like your XH has about as much class as mine when it comes to how seriously they treat relationships.

jackie89 posted 5/23/2013 13:21 PM

That's wonderful that you're feeling this way!

I'll be going through this starting in a couple of weeks, so you're giving me hope.. Thank You.

dmari posted 5/23/2013 13:37 PM

Anyway, I'm divorced, bankrupt, single, and happy as a pig in shit. I haven't felt this free in a very very long time. Time does indeed heal.

Thank you for sharing!! I am loving the happy as a pig in shit comment!! Congratulations!

veelop5 posted 5/23/2013 14:00 PM

How wonderful!!!! congrats!!!

scotslass posted 5/23/2013 14:48 PM

Congrats......Congrats......Congrats...........oh by the way did I mention......Congrats!!!!!!

persevere posted 5/23/2013 15:16 PM

Great post!

lostmommy posted 5/23/2013 15:41 PM

Thank you all! Being here helped (even though I haven't been around much lately) & having an amazing support group of friends and family helped.

For those that are just starting on this journey that we didn't want to go on - it's a rocky road through a dark tunnel, but you can and will come out on the other side.

Kajem posted 5/23/2013 17:13 PM

Congratulations.

And welcome to your new life...

Hugs,

K

ButterflyGirl posted 5/23/2013 17:18 PM

Congrats! The feeling "free" part is what I'm looking forward to.

tesla posted 5/23/2013 20:13 PM

PurpleRose posted 5/23/2013 20:20 PM

oh I wanna be happy as a pig in shit!! Lucky girl - can't wait for that to be me!!

bigpicture3236 posted 5/23/2013 21:24 PM

I find it interesting that because he couldn't get what he wanted, he thinks he is punishing you now by not doing anything extra. How does he think giving you more time with your kids is a punishment???
Idiot!
I am so glad to see your attitude though. Keep it up and stay happy!

homewrecked2011 posted 5/24/2013 03:26 AM

Same problem here with first summer visitation..

XWH chose his 2 weeks, I set my vacation schedule around this. Then he says he can't get them those 2 weeks. Well, that is for you to figure out, DA....

Honestly, if he doesn't try to get them then, I will not say a word bc I really don't want my children with him and IT anyway!!

FaithFool posted 5/24/2013 08:28 AM

Congratulations! (except for the bankruptcy part.... ) He is an idiot.

[This message edited by FaithFool at 8:28 AM, May 24th (Friday)]

lostmommy posted 5/24/2013 08:59 AM

I find it interesting that because he couldn't get what he wanted, he thinks he is punishing you now by not doing anything extra. How does he think giving you more time with your kids is a punishment???
Idiot!
I am so glad to see your attitude though. Keep it up and stay happy!

Yeah, he's really punishing me by not taking his visitation. He has "headuphisass-itis". LOL

Thank you again everyone! As for the bankruptcy, although I didn't want to do it, it was a necessary evil. He wasn't keeping up his end of the bargain paying his half of our joint debts. I needed to protect myself and my son. So now I get to sit back and watch them go after him. Karma baby!

stronggirl72 posted 5/24/2013 11:53 AM

I am so happy for you, and your perspective on things gives me a lot of much needed hope.

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