Does anyone have any ideas for me here? My WH will understand if I don't; but I would like to do something, I just don't know what.
For our 1st post-D-Day anniversary, I told my W I might go out with her if she asked me out and arranged everything. I wasn't playing games - I genuinely wasn't sure. She did arrange something and asked me out, and we had a wonderful time.
If your H is committed to you, he'll understand - but I suggest you talk to him about your feelings.
Follow your heart.
Conflicted, thank you for your response. Normally, I would be all over that; but I'm 6 months pregnant with a totally messed up back. I'm in PT and therapeutic massage weekly. Somehow couples massage just doesn't have the romantic feel it normally would
On the one hand, I'm thankful we made it...on the other, I get depressed thinking about what happened over the past year. I've been praying about this and asking God to grant me peace and the courage to look forward, rather than back. Post confession our M has been everything we always wanted it to be. Sometimes you have to have the mental discipline and courage to chase away those thoughts of the past and to focus on the future.
For me, that means looking at a picture of my WW and I going dancing. It was taken 2 weeks after she confessed and that event was one of our first dates and really helped put us back on the path to full R.
We are building something so much better than what we had, it is worth celebrating.
I love this, hopeful!! I've always believed our anniversaries are still special because we are STILL married. We're still making it work. Where others might've fallen apart, we're trying to build something stronger. It deserves celebration.
Of course, that was how I felt last year on my anniversary when I was clueless about OW2. This year, I'm going to take your approach - WH can arrange. I'm tired of feeling like the only one fighting for us.
I will never stop trying... because when you find 'the one' you never give up. (Cal Weaver)
Our 17th anniversary just passed last weekend. I spent 2 weeks in IC talking to her about it and trying to sort feelings. I never really came up with a good solution but I at least spoke with MrKOKO about it. I told him it was all on him that day and it was too hard for me to even think of.
My original plan was to not buy a present for him. My IC convinced me that I should seriously consider buying something even simple for him, like a shirt. I did take her advice and got him some cologne that I know he likes. I did not wrap it nor get him a card. Hey but it was a step in the right directions.
Now if he had not gotten something for me the sh*t would have hit the fan. And I am not really a gift person.