I'm sorry for your anxiety and hope it will go by quickly.
Yes, I agree with Nature Girl. If you leave it on there and be as honest as possible, no matter what he does-hopefully-the truth is the truth. A person can say and do whatever they want to alter it, but truth cannot be altered.
Thank you, I didn't know about the money part. Perv/STBXH also held holds) all the purse strings, too and never, ever would let me be joint on his, but he was joint on mine. Until all this stuff, I didn't question it. He's let me do what I will with my earnings, very little, but even says "my money", "my unemployment check", it's always "mine." My money was "ours".
I would think that could be an NPD trait and matches the whole control theory. Another box on the list.
I wish you luck tomorrow, Elaine. FWIW, I had things to learn like that, like Perv had some emotional abuse tendancies that I was never aware of.
I will be thinking of your appointment and sending luck and hugs. You have a lot of courage.
You gave me nothing and now it's all I've got - Bono
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.