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 rumorhasit (original poster member #38943) posted at 6:19 AM on Friday, May 24th, 2013

From Mrs. Robinson. I will do bullet points.

-Stop contacting *****'s family members.

- Stop trash talking ***** behind his back to his fb friends

-you have been removed from the email list for (community service group) so you don't know where he'll be. They all know you are not to be near him.

-I know you have been stalking me by looking up my address and talking to my exhusband which is illegal and mental.

-We are getting married.

-We are very happy.

- This is the truth.

- If you do not stop harrassing him we will file a restraining order.

- Leave us alone.

I could go through each item and comment but why bother. I didnt respond. FTW!

BGF- 30 (me)
WXBF- 30 (him)
Last Dday- 4-8-13, he left for OW#2
Us- 1 DS 3yo, Him- 1 DD 7yo

Mrs. Robinson- 41, S but still M

"You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." - Christopher Robin

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newlysingle ( member #38735) posted at 6:20 AM on Friday, May 24th, 2013

What the fuckity fuck? Is she in middle school?

BW - Me (40)
XWH -The Gnat
"Engaged" to OW, but the wedding appears to be indefinitely postponed.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (8), 1 DS (3)
Dday 3/13
Happily Divorced 9/20/13

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BrighterFuture ( member #38914) posted at 7:19 AM on Friday, May 24th, 2013

Ignore her! She'll feed of the drama to keep the relationship going. FTB

Me:30
Him:31
D-day:2/24/13 (I was 10 weeks pregnant at the time and DS was 15 months)
Status: Parted ways!

"If only I can fight just a little longer, I know it's gonna make me stronger" Jamie Grace-Holding on.

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 rumorhasit (original poster member #38943) posted at 7:21 AM on Friday, May 24th, 2013

Sadly no, she is supposedly an adult.

His family loves me.

I havent trash talked him. I have talked to MY friends on fb for support, they just also happen to be his. I don't have to give them up, its not my fault he's an ass.

I was unaware of any issues with the community group and have not caused any trouble.

Looking up an address and speaking briefly to one person is not stalking.

Getting married? Good luck with that because they're both nuts.

Happy? He's a mess and is one temptation away from cheating on her from what I heard.

Leave "us" alone? I have been!

BGF- 30 (me)
WXBF- 30 (him)
Last Dday- 4-8-13, he left for OW#2
Us- 1 DS 3yo, Him- 1 DD 7yo

Mrs. Robinson- 41, S but still M

"You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." - Christopher Robin

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homewrecked2011 ( member #34678) posted at 9:23 AM on Friday, May 24th, 2013

Gosh, is she my WH OW? Gees, they seem exactly alike! She doesn't text me, but she uses my H mouth to talk for her.

I stay away from them.

Unfortunately my children are in the mix with them and don't see thru it yet.

Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55

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stronger08 ( member #16953) posted at 10:13 AM on Friday, May 24th, 2013

If I were you I would take those texts to the cops and file your own RO. Explain that this woman is delusional and you fear her. Tell the police the whole sordid story and how she is making false statements about you stalking her. That you just want to be left alone and this nut will not allow that. Dont sit there while she tries to hold you hostage legally. Beat her old cheating ass to the punch. You may not get your RO. But you will get things on record.

You cant eat soup with chopsticks.

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 rumorhasit (original poster member #38943) posted at 12:27 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013

Getting things on record would be good, however for now I am choosing to do nothing. If I get any other threats I will take action at that point.

Its frustrating that he's going along with this crazy nonsense. I doubt he even knows what exactly she said to me.

This threat feels like an attempt to isolate me and remove some of my support. Also to shake me, by telling me they are getting married. I doubt he proposed, ring and all. Maybe she doesn't need one, this being at least her third marriage. What an auspicious beginning to their life together.

BGF- 30 (me)
WXBF- 30 (him)
Last Dday- 4-8-13, he left for OW#2
Us- 1 DS 3yo, Him- 1 DD 7yo

Mrs. Robinson- 41, S but still M

"You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." - Christopher Robin

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Take2 ( member #23890) posted at 1:55 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013

I know you have been stalking me by looking up my address and talking to my exhusband which is illegal and mental.

So in her world looking up an addresses is illegal? And it is illegal for you to speak to her STBX, but she can sleep with and marry yours?

This broad is a Total FRUITLOOP!

"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

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PurpleRose ( member #33129) posted at 2:10 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013

What a prize-- not sure which one of them-- by what a prize they each get!!!

divorced the Dooosh 8/13
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Dance like nobody is watching,
Text and email like it will be used in court someday...

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TrustNoOne ( member #16591) posted at 2:45 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013

You have a ring-side seat to the crazy train downward spiral.

You just know OW is sitting somewhere firing off those texts, not receiving any responses...going insane; asking herself - is she getting my texts; am I scaring her; pissing her off; is she IGNORING me; is she forwarding my texts to him??????

Ignore her. You are the one in control here.

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ButterflyGirl ( member #38377) posted at 2:54 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013

She is really trying to convince herself of these things to make what she's doing okay. When she stops focusing on you, she won't be very happy with what she sees in her own yard.

Yeah, what a fruitloop. Don't you dare do anything to her that's even close to what she's done to you

FTB..

xBW~ 40
Two DS~ 15 and 11

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sunshine226 ( member #38851) posted at 3:12 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013

give her crickets, save the text and just sit back and wait, she is spinning her web and trying to take you down, dont let her do it

She is just stirring up trouble and trying to get a reaction out of you, I have to wonder is there is a OW guide book out there somewhere that they all go by, because many of them seem to pull the same crap with the BS

OW in my case tried to make me believe my WH and her were looking at rings together (WH told me everytime they go to a mall she goes to the jewelry store) that they go to church together , and that she has met WH's neice (he told me the real story on that and neice confirmed it a few months later, since when does seeing someone in the food court off in the distance qualify as "meeting" someone)

Dont let this get to you, let her spuw her nonsense and sit back with a huge bowl of popcorn and watch the show

Me-BS (44)
Him-WS (47)
DDay 1/1/2012, common law for 22 1/2 years when he began A in September 2011
Status: moving on without him

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 rumorhasit (original poster member #38943) posted at 9:41 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013

Yup, yup. It did shake me when I first read it, but after checking things out with a couple of people I relaxed.

I'm not letting anything get to me anymore I swear!

And I do so enjoy sharing the latest WTF-ery with all of you!

BGF- 30 (me)
WXBF- 30 (him)
Last Dday- 4-8-13, he left for OW#2
Us- 1 DS 3yo, Him- 1 DD 7yo

Mrs. Robinson- 41, S but still M

"You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." - Christopher Robin

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Holly-Isis ( member #13447) posted at 2:45 AM on Saturday, May 25th, 2013

I don't know. According to her X she's crazy, right?

She might be trying to establish a faked trail of harassment. I'd err on the side of CYA.

"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

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PhoenixRisen ( member #35912) posted at 4:22 AM on Saturday, May 25th, 2013

talking to my exhusband which is illegal

Makes me wonder if she is seeing signs he is cheating on her

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wannabenormal ( member #19772) posted at 4:34 AM on Saturday, May 25th, 2013

They turn into such middle-schoolers so fast.

Hey Mrs. R, go shit in a hat and wear it. It'll suit you.



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Dark Inertia ( member #30727) posted at 8:32 PM on Saturday, May 25th, 2013

Hang in there! She just sounds incredibly insecure.

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peridot ( member #18334) posted at 8:51 PM on Saturday, May 25th, 2013

You need to be careful. I've dealt with the crazy OW who likes to file false allegations to get a VPO. Don't trust that your XH doesn't know either. I wouldn't trust either of them. He's a stranger to you now and will do whatever she says. Do you have kids together?

I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.

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 rumorhasit (original poster member #38943) posted at 9:34 PM on Saturday, May 25th, 2013

What is VPO?

We have one DS2. I have filed for custody and we have mediation in July.

BGF- 30 (me)
WXBF- 30 (him)
Last Dday- 4-8-13, he left for OW#2
Us- 1 DS 3yo, Him- 1 DD 7yo

Mrs. Robinson- 41, S but still M

"You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." - Christopher Robin

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Ashland13 ( member #38378) posted at 1:47 AM on Sunday, May 26th, 2013

Sounds like the ole' bait and tackle.

Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington

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