WH didn't get an offer for a new job he was courting. Which, on one hand is fine because he HAS a job, but on the other hand made me incredibly sad. Much more sad than I would've expected, especially considering I don't think this new job was all that great. I just think I'm more eager for him to be 100% away from OW2 and this awful workplace than I want to admit to even myself.
I did, finally, find my voice and express to WH that I need a timeline: either SHE needs to go, or HE needs to go, but that I can't sit here, year after year, and watch him go to work and wonder and just wait and wait and wait until hopefully OW gets transferred to another department and just kind of fades away. That's what I did with OW1. It was years of torture that never really went away (because she still works there too, but in a different group on a different floor). She just doesn't really bother me anymore because six years later, time has proven they're all the way done.
WH listened and said he understood. He even agreed with my idea that the best time to LOOK for a new job is when you don't need one. Get your resume out there!!
In the meantime, our MC has "been hospitalized." He doesn't know when he'll be back to work, but he hasn't suggested we need to find a new therapist. I'm willing to wait for him to be back - he's amazing. But not seeing anyone... not having any new job offers on the table... I just feel like we're stalled. I'm in the same place today that I was yesterday. And the day before. And last week. Nothing is happening. Nothing is moving forward or changing.
Is this normal? Is this the "it takes time" thing? I know WH can't find a new job overnight, but should we be talking more or reading more or something? Of course, the flip side of that is that I'm sick of talking about his LTA. It already sucks up so much of my headspace.
Me: FWW (STA 2002), now a BW.
Him: FWH (OW1: 2006-2007), now just WH (OW2: 2010-2013)
I will never stop trying... because when you find 'the one' you never give up. (Cal Weaver)