1. NC ever with his MOW.
2. No friendships of the opposite sex that make the other spouse feel uncomfortable. No matter how long the friendship.
3. Open access from both parties on email, facebook, phones etc. Any changes without notification is the same as starting up all over again. Major deal breaker for me.
4. COMMUNICATION IS A MUST. Get it off your chest ASAP. Letting it linger only brings about bad feelings which can lead to bad actions.
5. Listen without getting defensive.
6. Any texts/calls must returned ASAP, within reason, by both spouses.