DS13 is horrible to DS10. He's not physical with him, but just constantly picking apart everything that DS10 says or does. It has been a problem for a couple years and I don't tolerate it. I punish DS13, but it has turned into a circle of DS13 doing something to DS10, me punishing DS13, DS13 getting mad and doing another something to DS10. I've tried appealing to DS13's compassion, etc...
Last night I complained to EX after DS13 told DS10's news to EX over the phone. DS10 was screaming, "please don't tell him, it's my news to tell"...DS13 did it intentionally to hurt DS10 and take away his thunder.
So I told EX that DS13 is breaking DS10. EX says that he was tortured physically and mentally by his older half-brothers and that he felt worthless growing up and although he wants nothing to do with those brothers still, as adults, it didn't break him.
I asked "why do you think it didn't break you?"
He then says maybe it did, maybe that is why he doesn't like to be around people and he doesn't want that to happen to DS10.
Nothing about that he was able to be so mean and cruel and heartless to me. Not just having an A, but the gaslighting, lying and torturing my emotional health...which also lead to his kids coming from a broken home, and maybe a part of the reason we're having sibling rivalry issues with them.
No, apparently he didn't break.
[This message edited by tabitha95 at 12:25 PM, May 24th (Friday)]
BW (me) - 45
DS 14, DS 11
D-Day#1: Oct 30, 2008
D-Day#2: June 3, 2011 (same MOW) Separation: June 3, 2011
Divorce finalized: Feb 2012 (due to 6 month waiting period).
