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tesla (original poster member #34697) posted at 8:32 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013
Ex-shat comes to pick up Teslet. He usually gets him from school so I don't have to see the fucker. But-no school today. Anyway, as ex-shat is coming up from the drive, I let Teslet out the front door. Ex-shat makes a big show of stooping down and smothering the kid in a hug. While he's down there, he looks up and just stares at me like he wants to say something. What, I don't know because I shut the door. He used to give me that look when he was reaching out for reassurance.
It was weird...because it was a familiar look but I don't care about it anymore. I felt nothing.
And now I'm waiting for the movie to start!! Holy crap, going to the movies is fucking expensive!!! But I'm actually really excited. Before I always went to what ex-shat wanted to see. Always sat where he wanted to sit. It's so neat to choose what I want to see and sit in front 
Woo-hoo for me!!
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 8:36 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013
Have fun! I hope your XH enjoyed watching the door close on his pathetic face. Aw, poor baby. Go talk to your stripper whore about your problems. What a dope.
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
Newlease ( member #7767) posted at 8:45 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013
Enjoy your movie! Independence can be so wonderful!
NL
Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.
h0peless ( member #36697) posted at 9:10 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013
Let us know how the movie is! I want to see it tomorrow.
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 9:16 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013
What Movie???? Don't leave us hanging here!!!!
Hugs,
K
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 9:18 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013
I am interested to hear what movie and your review!
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 9:22 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013
Have fun! I like going to the movies solo... it's pretty fun.
Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 9:56 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013
I used to sit in the front too!
Have fun!
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
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D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 11:57 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013
I've stopped making eye contact with the sad clown. On DD5s first day of school I couldn't avoid it and I know EXACTLY what you're saying about the weird but familiar look.
He commented on my hair, my sunglasses and got monosyllabic answers. It was weird because I recognised the look and understood its meaning too - I felt nothing but revulsion. It literally made my skin crawl.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
tesla (original poster member #34697) posted at 12:43 AM on Saturday, May 25th, 2013
Went to see Star Trek. Loved it. I've been working my way through the original series on weekends I haven't had Teslet.
Jeez, why did it take me so long to go to a movie by myself? I really enjoyed it. What was I scared of? Another thing conquered I guess.
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
kernel ( member #27035) posted at 1:09 AM on Saturday, May 25th, 2013
Good for you! I like going to the movies alone too, although I don't mind with friends. Next try dinner out alone - I always take a book.
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
tabitha95 ( member #22033) posted at 1:17 AM on Saturday, May 25th, 2013
Wasn't Star Trek great? It ties into a couple of the older movies too, not just the tv show.
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DS 14, DS 11
D-Day#1: Oct 30, 2008
D-Day#2: June 3, 2011 (same MOW) Separation: June 3, 2011
Divorce finalized: Feb 2012 (due to 6 month waiting period).
fallingquickly ( member #36599) posted at 6:30 AM on Sunday, May 26th, 2013
I went to see that movie by myself, too. Only I like to sit in the back.
Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)
I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken
There came a point when it was too painful to love him, so I stopped.
courageous ( member #34477) posted at 9:49 AM on Sunday, May 26th, 2013
Good for you! I can only imagine the look on his face after the door closed
Glad to hear you are doing things for yourself....you deserve it
Me: BW (in my 40's) Him: ExWH EA/PA with MOW coworker(also married). He ended up marrying his mistress.
thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 4:15 PM on Sunday, May 26th, 2013
Before I always went to what ex-shat wanted to see. Always sat where he wanted to sit. It's so neat to choose what I want to see and sit in front
This is me, too. I love going to the movies alone! I sit where I want and go to what I want to see. There were times he told me to choose somewhere to sit, and after I did, he would sit somewhere else! He didn't like where I chose.
He would do that at diners and restaurants where you could seat yourself too. Got to the point I just told him to choose. He just had to control everything while letting me think I could choose for once.
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
Bombshell ( member #36058) posted at 12:32 AM on Monday, May 27th, 2013
Hooray for single movie goers! For me, it was one of those things we did as a couple...just because he got stupid and left didn't change the fact that I like going to the movies. It was weird at first, but now, I'm a regular! Ticket for one, please! 
thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 1:24 AM on Monday, May 27th, 2013
Did this today. Took DGS and DGD with me. MUCH more fun than going with xpos! Now I can really enjoy it.
No rush-rush, did a little shopping after, then went for an early dinner and some ice cream. Very nice afternoon. As a bonus, DS and DDIL enjoyed some time to themselves too
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
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