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User Topic: New beginning over...but please help
rn_6609
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Default  Posted: 5:20 PM, May 24th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So my new beginning ended! :) Life goes on, right?? Somehow he is texting me with information he has from text messages I have sent other ppl. How can he see my text messages? Over the last couple years he has had access to my phone...did he do something so he can see my private conversations?
I don't talk to him anymore...but its creepy that he has this information. I have an HTC phone. I hate to seem paranoid...but I'm a little freaked out.


"If we knew each others secrets, what comforts we should find." John Churton Collins
Me: BS
Him: MLC to the extreme (howorker)
M 25 years high school sweets
2sons 25 and 27, one grand daughter.
Dday-Oct 2007
D 4/2009

Posts: 33 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: South Dakota
phmh
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Default  Posted: 5:32 PM, May 24th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

New beginning does not mean a new partner in your life. New beginning means making a wonderful life for yourself.

I don't quite understand your post (who is the "he"? XWH? A new SO?), but your new beginning is what you make of it -- it's your new life!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


Posts: 3456 | Registered: Dec 2011
rn_6609
♀ 32838
Member # 32838
Default  Posted: 5:38 PM, May 24th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry...should have been more specific. New beginning was an SO. I am just a little creeped out he has info from my phone he should not have.
He was part of my NB...but def not the whole shebang!! I am actually a very happily divorced success story.
I'm just feeling a little violated right now. He is getting my text messages or he has access to my phone somehow.


"If we knew each others secrets, what comforts we should find." John Churton Collins
Me: BS
Him: MLC to the extreme (howorker)
M 25 years high school sweets
2sons 25 and 27, one grand daughter.
Dday-Oct 2007
D 4/2009

Posts: 33 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: South Dakota
Crescita
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Default  Posted: 6:09 PM, May 24th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is this information from texts you sent before or after you broke up? If before I would think he had just been reading your phone, if after he could be talking to all of your friends. I doubt he still has access to your phone, but if you believe so, you might want to post this in Investigative Tips. There are some tech savvy people in there who could probably help you figure out if he does have some program on there.

(((rn)))


“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

Posts: 3521 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
phmh
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Default  Posted: 6:36 PM, May 24th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is pretty creepy. Good thing you are rid of him!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


Posts: 3456 | Registered: Dec 2011
tabitha95
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Default  Posted: 7:19 PM, May 24th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Does your online bill allow you to see texts?


BW (me) - 45
DS 14, DS 11
D-Day#1: Oct 30, 2008
D-Day#2: June 3, 2011 (same MOW) Separation: June 3, 2011
Divorce finalized: Feb 2012 (due to 6 month waiting period).

Posts: 3250 | Registered: Dec 2008
luv2swim
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Default  Posted: 3:13 AM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is there any chance you are in an on-going group (text) conversation and do not realize this? I have read with some carriers/phones (Verizon - Droids and HTC Evo) you are not able to see who the messages go to in group, only the person to whom you are responding to.

Maybe exSO believes you are texting him. That would be interesting, eh?

[This message edited by luv2swim at 3:17 AM, May 25th (Saturday)]


Me: BS
Him: NPD WS
Married 24 years
incredible kids
D day: 2006 ... he left to live with OW.
Divorced: 2009
WS + OW: Married 2011

Posts: 357 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: US
stronger08
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Default  Posted: 3:46 AM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dude was spying on you right from the get go. Best off you are rid of him. As long as you were not having an EA with these other guys while in a relationship with him I say you did nothing wrong. Even with my past history of being cheated on I feel every relationship needs trust in it. And from the sounds of this guy he is very insecure.


You cant eat soup with chopsticks.

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little turtle
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Default  Posted: 8:26 AM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Does your ex talk with the people you're texting? Could they be telling him this information?

There could be an app that posts all of your texts to a place he can see or something. I don't know. I haven't looked into it. I'd go through all of my apps to make sure they are all things that I installed and nothing that could be sharing texts.


Failure is success if we learn from it.

Posts: 4223 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm with strong on this... there are programs that can be downloaded so that he sees everything your phone does. This may be your situation. Post in investigative tips and someone tech savvy out to be able to help you.

Good luck.. it is creepy.

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5528 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
Ann124
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Default  Posted: 6:43 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would diffidently do a factory restore/reset on my phone ... And hopefully that would eliminate any possible spyware that has been installed. Or take the phone into your carrier and have them check the phone out... Asap

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