SurvivingInfidelity.com Forum Archives

rn_6609 posted 5/24/2013 17:20 PM

So my new beginning ended! :) Life goes on, right?? Somehow he is texting me with information he has from text messages I have sent other ppl. How can he see my text messages? Over the last couple years he has had access to my phone...did he do something so he can see my private conversations?
I don't talk to him anymore...but its creepy that he has this information. I have an HTC phone. I hate to seem paranoid...but I'm a little freaked out.

phmh posted 5/24/2013 17:32 PM

New beginning does not mean a new partner in your life. New beginning means making a wonderful life for yourself.

I don't quite understand your post (who is the "he"? XWH? A new SO?), but your new beginning is what you make of it -- it's your new life!

rn_6609 posted 5/24/2013 17:38 PM

Sorry...should have been more specific. New beginning was an SO. I am just a little creeped out he has info from my phone he should not have.
He was part of my NB...but def not the whole shebang!! I am actually a very happily divorced success story.
I'm just feeling a little violated right now. He is getting my text messages or he has access to my phone somehow.

Crescita posted 5/24/2013 18:09 PM

Is this information from texts you sent before or after you broke up? If before I would think he had just been reading your phone, if after he could be talking to all of your friends. I doubt he still has access to your phone, but if you believe so, you might want to post this in Investigative Tips. There are some tech savvy people in there who could probably help you figure out if he does have some program on there.

(((rn)))

phmh posted 5/24/2013 18:36 PM

That is pretty creepy. Good thing you are rid of him!

tabitha95 posted 5/24/2013 19:19 PM

Does your online bill allow you to see texts?

luv2swim posted 5/25/2013 03:13 AM

Is there any chance you are in an on-going group (text) conversation and do not realize this? I have read with some carriers/phones (Verizon - Droids and HTC Evo) you are not able to see who the messages go to in group, only the person to whom you are responding to.

Maybe exSO believes you are texting him. That would be interesting, eh?

[This message edited by luv2swim at 3:17 AM, May 25th (Saturday)]

stronger08 posted 5/25/2013 03:46 AM

Dude was spying on you right from the get go. Best off you are rid of him. As long as you were not having an EA with these other guys while in a relationship with him I say you did nothing wrong. Even with my past history of being cheated on I feel every relationship needs trust in it. And from the sounds of this guy he is very insecure.

little turtle posted 5/25/2013 08:26 AM

Does your ex talk with the people you're texting? Could they be telling him this information?

There could be an app that posts all of your texts to a place he can see or something. I don't know. I haven't looked into it. I'd go through all of my apps to make sure they are all things that I installed and nothing that could be sharing texts.

Kajem posted 5/25/2013 13:06 PM

I'm with strong on this... there are programs that can be downloaded so that he sees everything your phone does. This may be your situation. Post in investigative tips and someone tech savvy out to be able to help you.

Good luck.. it is creepy.

K

Ann124 posted 5/25/2013 18:43 PM

I would diffidently do a factory restore/reset on my phone ... And hopefully that would eliminate any possible spyware that has been installed. Or take the phone into your carrier and have them check the phone out... Asap