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User Topic: I've come a long way
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Content  Posted: 5:31 PM, May 24th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Went for pre-op labs today. Already a little stressed from that (see previous post)

So I am waiting to do registration, get called up, and am doing my paperwork at booth. On tv behind me I hear something about an interview or something concerning general Petraus and the OW. I feel hairs stand up, I close my eyes for moment, remind myself that I am in present and focus forward.

Then go to other office to wait for labs to be taken. On the tv is a different talk show. Relieved it was some grilling segment with Memorial Day coming up. Then a commercial. When they return....they interview an actress that stars in 'Mistresses'. Really?! What are the f'ing odds ?!

I again stay focused on present and do my labs.

Then go out to late lunch after FWH got done with work. I get a call for some info from work. From someone who left his W and kids for OW. I was with FWH when i got the call. We discussed all these triggers together. I even asked if someone above was throwing darts at me.

Really....3 triggers in under 3 hours. But I wasn't thrown. My FWH had an appointment tonight and asked before he left if I was ok since I had so many of them today in short time. You know what....I was, I REALLY was okay. I felt the dull ache for a few minutes and moved on from each.

I guess I really have come a long way!

ETA: correct spelling....hate small keyboard on iPhone

[This message edited by tryin2havefaith at 5:33 PM, May 24th (Friday)]

DDay 1/2011
4 - 6 months of TT'ing
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"Just as ripples spread out when a single pebble is dropped into water, the actions of individuals can have far-reaching effects. " -Dalai Lama

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Default  Posted: 9:40 PM, May 24th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like you handled it beautifully. That's wonderful!

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Default  Posted: 10:25 PM, May 24th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's awesome. I feel the same way when a trigger comes up and my biggest compulsion is to roll my eyes.

"All the wars, all the hatred, all the ignorance in the world come out of being so invested in our opinions. And at bottom, those opinions are merely our efforts to escape the underlying uneasiness of being human. - Pema Chodron

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