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User Topic: I've come a long way
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Content  Posted: 5:31 PM, May 24th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Went for pre-op labs today. Already a little stressed from that (see previous post)

So I am waiting to do registration, get called up, and am doing my paperwork at booth. On tv behind me I hear something about an interview or something concerning general Petraus and the OW. I feel hairs stand up, I close my eyes for moment, remind myself that I am in present and focus forward.

Then go to other office to wait for labs to be taken. On the tv is a different talk show. Relieved it was some grilling segment with Memorial Day coming up. Then a commercial. When they return....they interview an actress that stars in 'Mistresses'. Really?! What are the f'ing odds ?!

I again stay focused on present and do my labs.

Then go out to late lunch after FWH got done with work. I get a call for some info from work. From someone who left his W and kids for OW. I was with FWH when i got the call. We discussed all these triggers together. I even asked if someone above was throwing darts at me.

Really....3 triggers in under 3 hours. But I wasn't thrown. My FWH had an appointment tonight and asked before he left if I was ok since I had so many of them today in short time. You know what....I was, I REALLY was okay. I felt the dull ache for a few minutes and moved on from each.

I guess I really have come a long way!

ETA: correct spelling....hate small keyboard on iPhone

[This message edited by tryin2havefaith at 5:33 PM, May 24th (Friday)]

DDay 9/2011
4-6 months of TT'ing
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Default  Posted: 9:40 PM, May 24th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like you handled it beautifully. That's wonderful!

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Default  Posted: 10:25 PM, May 24th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's awesome. I feel the same way when a trigger comes up and my biggest compulsion is to roll my eyes.

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom

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