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ProbableIceCream posted 5/24/2013 18:16 PM

I feel like I'm starting to slowly put my life back together, but it still feels really hollow sometimes. Not all of it. I feel great about what I do at work, for example, and I have some hobby type stuff that I like. But overall I don't have the sense of 'meaningfulness' that I used to have. And sometimes I do have trouble being interested in things.. really depends on the day. Going out usually feels good.

Sounds like someone describing really low grade depression, eh?

Anyway, this is just a small vent.. I'll just keep working on stuff. Just feeling a little flat today. Probably doesn't help that I have a cold.

Sad in AZ posted 5/24/2013 18:21 PM

Look at it this way; if you were 'up' all the time, you'd burn yourself out. This is your psyche's way of chilling. You're going through a trauma, so don't expect to be 100% for a while.

You're probably doing a lot better than I did at your stage.

tabitha95 posted 5/24/2013 19:22 PM

I get it. I sometimes wonder if I would get diagnosed as bi-polar, but I don't have the manic part. Just different degrees of up and down. My ups don't last as long as my down's though.

phmh posted 5/24/2013 19:46 PM

Do you volunteer at all? Studies have shown that's one of the best ways to feel good about yourself.

What used to give your life meaning?

ProbableIceCream posted 5/25/2013 05:59 AM

phmh, volunteering is a good idea. I've been meaning to do some volunteering anyway soon.

I'll have to think about your question. It's 4 AM here and my brain's not fully on yet.

Amazonia posted 5/25/2013 06:30 AM

Exercise helps too.
Ae you familiar with the SI concept of the "plain of lethal flatness"?

ProbableIceCream posted 5/25/2013 18:55 PM

Amazonia, I just read about the plain of lethal flatness after reading your post.

When it was cooler out (I live in a very hot place) I jogged a lot. Now I manage 2.4 miles a week of walking, but that's kind of a bare minimum figure. I think until I figure out something better I'm going switch to tracking steps on a pedometer to ensure a minimum level of exercise (because honestly, more of my walking happens indoors and at work than it does outside, and I think I could boost that gradually).

ideservebetter45 posted 5/25/2013 19:51 PM

I feel this way too.. sometimes I feel like a big loser..I feel sad. .I see my friends moving on doing family things. .I hate starting over

ProbableIceCream posted 5/25/2013 22:53 PM

ideservebetter45, it is a little sad sometimes. I still feel a little cheated, when I'm completely honest with myself.

But it doesn't have to be that way forever.