|
|
|
User
|
Topic: The "blahs" again.
|
ProbableIceCream
♂ 37468
Member # 37468 |  Posted: 6:16 PM, May 24th (Friday), 2013 |     |
I feel like I'm starting to slowly put my life back together, but it still feels really hollow sometimes. Not all of it. I feel great about what I do at work, for example, and I have some hobby type stuff that I like. But overall I don't have the sense of 'meaningfulness' that I used to have. And sometimes I do have trouble being interested in things.. really depends on the day. Going out usually feels good.
Sounds like someone describing really low grade depression, eh?
Anyway, this is just a small vent.. I'll just keep working on stuff. Just feeling a little flat today. Probably doesn't help that I have a cold.
Posts: 881 | Registered: Nov 2012 |
Sad in AZ
♀ 24239
Member # 24239 | | Posted: 6:21 PM, May 24th (Friday), 2013 | |
Look at it this way; if you were 'up' all the time, you'd burn yourself out. This is your psyche's way of chilling. You're going through a trauma, so don't expect to be 100% for a while.
You're probably doing a lot better than I did at your stage. 
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-62
Him: WXH-62
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
Posts: 25300 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Arizona |
tabitha95
♀ 22033
Member # 22033 | | Posted: 7:22 PM, May 24th (Friday), 2013 | |
I get it. I sometimes wonder if I would get diagnosed as bi-polar, but I don't have the manic part. Just different degrees of up and down. My ups don't last as long as my down's though.
BW (me) - 45
DS 14, DS 11
D-Day#1: Oct 30, 2008
D-Day#2: June 3, 2011 (same MOW) Separation: June 3, 2011
Divorce finalized: Feb 2012 (due to 6 month waiting period).
Posts: 3266 | Registered: Dec 2008 |
phmh
♀ 34146
Member # 34146 | | Posted: 7:46 PM, May 24th (Friday), 2013 | |
Do you volunteer at all? Studies have shown that's one of the best ways to feel good about yourself.
What used to give your life meaning?
Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!
Married: 11 years, no kids
Character is destiny
Posts: 4445 | Registered: Dec 2011 |
ProbableIceCream
♂ 37468
Member # 37468 | | Posted: 5:59 AM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013 | |
phmh, volunteering is a good idea. I've been meaning to do some volunteering anyway soon.
I'll have to think about your question. It's 4 AM here and my brain's not fully on yet.
Posts: 881 | Registered: Nov 2012 |
Amazonia
♀ 32810
Member # 32810 | | Posted: 6:30 AM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013 | |
Exercise helps too.
Ae you familiar with the SI concept of the "plain of lethal flatness"?
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
Posts: 14446 | Registered: Jul 2011 |
ProbableIceCream
♂ 37468
Member # 37468 | | Posted: 6:55 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013 | |
Amazonia, I just read about the plain of lethal flatness after reading your post.
When it was cooler out (I live in a very hot place) I jogged a lot. Now I manage 2.4 miles a week of walking, but that's kind of a bare minimum figure. I think until I figure out something better I'm going switch to tracking steps on a pedometer to ensure a minimum level of exercise (because honestly, more of my walking happens indoors and at work than it does outside, and I think I could boost that gradually).
Posts: 881 | Registered: Nov 2012 |
ideservebetter45
♀ 36951
Member # 36951 | | Posted: 7:51 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013 | |
I feel this way too.. sometimes I feel like a big loser..I feel sad. .I see my friends moving on doing family things. .I hate starting over
Posts: 242 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: ideservebetter45 |
ProbableIceCream
♂ 37468
Member # 37468 | | Posted: 10:53 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013 | |
ideservebetter45, it is a little sad sometimes. I still feel a little cheated, when I'm completely honest with myself.
But it doesn't have to be that way forever.
Posts: 881 | Registered: Nov 2012 |
| Topic Posts: 9 | |
