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I feel like I'm starting to slowly put my life back together, but it still feels really hollow sometimes. Not all of it. I feel great about what I do at work, for example, and I have some hobby type stuff that I like. But overall I don't have the sense of 'meaningfulness' that I used to have. And sometimes I do have trouble being interested in things.. really depends on the day. Going out usually feels good.

Sounds like someone describing really low grade depression, eh?

Anyway, this is just a small vent.. I'll just keep working on stuff. Just feeling a little flat today. Probably doesn't help that I have a cold.

Look at it this way; if you were 'up' all the time, you'd burn yourself out. This is your psyche's way of chilling. You're going through a trauma, so don't expect to be 100% for a while.

You're probably doing a lot better than I did at your stage.

I get it. I sometimes wonder if I would get diagnosed as bi-polar, but I don't have the manic part. Just different degrees of up and down. My ups don't last as long as my down's though.

Do you volunteer at all? Studies have shown that's one of the best ways to feel good about yourself.

What used to give your life meaning?

phmh, volunteering is a good idea. I've been meaning to do some volunteering anyway soon.

I'll have to think about your question. It's 4 AM here and my brain's not fully on yet.

Exercise helps too.
Ae you familiar with the SI concept of the "plain of lethal flatness"?

Amazonia, I just read about the plain of lethal flatness after reading your post.

When it was cooler out (I live in a very hot place) I jogged a lot. Now I manage 2.4 miles a week of walking, but that's kind of a bare minimum figure. I think until I figure out something better I'm going switch to tracking steps on a pedometer to ensure a minimum level of exercise (because honestly, more of my walking happens indoors and at work than it does outside, and I think I could boost that gradually).

I feel this way too.. sometimes I feel like a big loser..I feel sad. .I see my friends moving on doing family things. .I hate starting over

ideservebetter45, it is a little sad sometimes. I still feel a little cheated, when I'm completely honest with myself.

But it doesn't have to be that way forever.