(((Angel177))) I am right here with ya! We used to have a great sex life... it decreased steadily until towards the end of summer 2012 it just stopped completely. I looked THE BEST I ever have at that time... was participating in a bikini competition, so I was ripped, looked great. He wanted NOTHING to do with me, reject reject reject reject reject... finally I stopped trying and said "I'll let him come to me." Never happened. Turns out he was cheating on me all summer.
Now we're three months past D-Day and he's initiated with me exactly two times. (Realistically if my memory serves me it's been exactly 2 times in the past 6 months +.) It hurts so bad to know he was excited for them, pursued them at least a little, and I'm over here feeling like the least desirable woman on earth. (Okay, that's a little melodramatic! But really, my self-esteem is beyond shattered at this point.)
It's so hard not to take it personally and despite my best efforts I do take it personally sometimes. All I want in the world is to be loved and wanted by my husband.
I don't think I'm helping here. Sorry!! I guess we can commiserate at least?