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Reconciliation :
Tomorrow is 1 yr

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 IGaveItMyAll (original poster member #38622) posted at 6:37 AM on Saturday, May 25th, 2013

Tomorrow marks 1 year since the first time my WW slept with the OM. I had a few mind movies today. I have a good day planned with the family tomorrow. I just hope my mind doesn't get the best of me. I really want a good day. I just hope my mind doesn't get the best of me.... Here's to being strong

ME-BS 34
FWW-28
M 6 Yrs
DDAY- 8/20/12
R

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Hearthache again ( member #28564) posted at 7:06 AM on Saturday, May 25th, 2013

I have learned to talk myself out of those mind movies. You simply and firmly tell yourself I will not think about this now. Say it over and over again until it is true.

Focus on the words it helps a little too. I hope you have a good day too.

Me-BS(34)
Him-WS(37)
Married-14 years together 15
Kids 4: 17, 14, 10, and 5
DDay#1 9-26-2008 Dday#2 4-26-2010
We have R!!! But I still hate the number 26!

This too shall pass
I edit a lot because that stupid box is so small!

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 IGaveItMyAll (original poster member #38622) posted at 7:16 AM on Saturday, May 25th, 2013

Thanks over all my mental state has been really good. I think I will go into it that I am not going to let it take any more from me. Just hoping for a smooth fun day. I hadn't had mind movies for a while and a few triggers. But I think cause I have been working hard on me

ME-BS 34
FWW-28
M 6 Yrs
DDAY- 8/20/12
R

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OptimisticWife ( member #36587) posted at 2:37 PM on Saturday, May 25th, 2013

I hope you have a great day tomorrow

If you have unwelcome thoughts you could always try visualizing a stop sign as been suggested on this site before. I've tried this a few times and it seems to work.

My IC also suggested that I picture a bus in my mind. When u have a thought, acknowledge it like you would a new passenger. She then says I should send that thought to the back of the bus if the time is inappropriate. She said that I can recall that thought, process it and then 'let it off the bus' when the time is right for me. Hope that makes sense and helps you get through tomorrow. Best wishes to you and your family for a fantastic day

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sailorgirl ( member #38162) posted at 5:30 AM on Sunday, May 26th, 2013

Best wishes for tomorrow, IGIMA!

Can I also say congratulations for making it through a whole year, for working on you, and being in an overall good mental state!!

An SIer suggested imagining windshield wipers clearing away the unwanted thoughts that are ruining my view. It works for me. I have to turn them up to the fastest speed sometimes . . .

Married 14 years, three amazing kids
H had 17 month EA/PA
D-day 1/5/13
Reconcilling

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Dare2Trust ( member #21183) posted at 6:42 AM on Sunday, May 26th, 2013

Sending you positive thoughts and good wishes - your deserve both!

Me BS 59
WH 58
Married 19 years
D-Day Nov 3, 2005
Child: Adopted Daughter 21 College Student now

I can understand being alone; but I hate being with someone and feeling lonely.

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