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Phoenix1 (original poster member #38928) posted at 9:30 AM on Saturday, May 25th, 2013
So I went off on my neighbors last week. It was not a good day, I was tired, and my neighbors were letting their dog constantly run into my yard. Long story short, I totally ripped them a new one over their dog. Today, I walked over and apologized. They have no clue about what is going on with POS and me. So I told them. I figured I had the option of making enemies out of them or apologize and keep them as allies. They are retired and home most if the time, so they can be a good set of eyes while I am not home. They were very understanding and supportive. The wife even joked that, "we need to get you a boyfriend!" Cute and appreciated, but no thanks. I just have to stop and think about what flies out of my mouth sometimes. They may not be my favorite people, but they didn't deserve my POS-induced anger. Unlike POS, I can own up to my actions and make it right, it's not difficult... 
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
stilltrying2025 ( member #39145) posted at 1:22 PM on Saturday, May 25th, 2013
Good for you Phoenix1! You had the guts to "man up" to your mistake and you made it right. That's awesome and I commend you for that!
I don't think there is one of us on this site that hasn't taken our anger/pain/betrayal out on someone who doesn't deserve it. I sure know I have! I think we just get so much emotion built up in us that eventually just the smallest things make us explode and look out whoever is in the way!
You've already got up and dusted yourself off.....now keep going! Proud of you for apologizing 
Me: 38
WH: 43
DD: Thanksgiving Day, 2012
Status: Separated
atadstressed ( member #22295) posted at 7:29 PM on Saturday, May 25th, 2013
I have BTDT and something that i have had to apologise to friends for. I have worked on this as i was known as the most passive of the group. This shit changed me for a while and i was lucky that they stuck by me!
DDay 21/12/07 & numerous after
false recon until 08/10/10
threw him out 08/10/10
Not quite there yet but mostly happy being single
Don't engage with an idiot. They will bring you down to their level and beat you with experience.
dmari ( member #37215) posted at 8:19 PM on Saturday, May 25th, 2013
Good for you Phoenix1!! The fact that they were understanding and supportive and even humorous makes me feel they are good people to have as allies.
What a positive life lesson for you ... I hope you feel stronger about yourself today!! Awesome!
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