I posted last week about a bunch of different guys, one being a work colleagues who is going through a D and inappropriately professed his "desire" for me. And to whom I told no straight up and why.
He's continued to be friendly, and for the most part in a helpful way. My job is such that it requires that you be open and talkative with people. I'd explain in way that makes it clear but then I be pretty much telling you what I do for a living and that's TMI for a public forum so you're just going to have to take my word on it.
I thought by telling him no in no uncertain terms that things were handled.
This week I had a tough extra project that I had never done before. He was of great assistance in pointing out aspects that I needed to consider to get things done. He has done the task before so was sort of my SME (subject matter expert), I really appreciated his help and told him so. On the day of the event I arrive bright and early to a good luck post-it and a bottle of my favorite local mineral water. What a nice gesture given that I was going to be riding around in a car all day without access to water/food unless I brought it myself.
So. He checked in by text a few times that day "need anything" b/c he was a base location and I had arranged for him to be my person on the ground in case the shit hit the fan.
Until I woke up this morning to a post on FB on HIS wall, tagging me, and say what an awesome job I did at my super duper important event. WTF???? Three colleagues had already seen and checked "like" and one had commented "yes, she did!"
But f*ck me, bc in my mind it 1. makes it look like *I'M* bragging and begging for compliments 2. I don't put work shit on my FB (except for my location and posting) and 3. HOW FUCKING UNSUBTLE DUDE, I GET IT, YOU LIKE ME, NOW STAND DOWN.
Grr. Sorry, yelling at the wrong people here, lol. So I hid the post on my timeline. Sent him a note that thanked him, told him I thought the post made it look like I was bragging, that I had hidden on my feed, and that I expected him to remove it. And that he was being unsubtle.
I didn't chastise him any more. But, how do I put a stop to this? Dude, you like me. You have the hots for me. Got it. Now stop it.
Seriously, why don't people have boundaries? Why can't people take no for an answer. It boggles my mind!!!!
Not looking for advice here. I know what to do next to stop this. Just venting. God help me. I'd say I loved the protection that having a wedding ring gave me from this kind of crap but then lol we all know how well a ring works as a boundary marker for some
[This message edited by cayc at 7:01 AM, May 25th (Saturday)]