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User Topic: Checking In.....and Hanging In There
exhausted lady
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Member # 30217
Default  Posted: 9:27 AM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi to my SI peeps. I've had some time to come on here and read, comment a couple of times, and that's been about it lately. This morning I found myself with some "me time", so I thought I'd say hi and let you know I'm still alive and mostly sane.

The health situation with my dad has turned into a marathon, but it's looking better. He decided to go ahead and fight the cancer (at 85) and the prognosis is actually fairly positive. But it means treatment 5 days a week in a neighboring town (90 minute drive to the facility), plus the chemo treatments will be very time consuming. My daughter & I have come up with a workable tag-team schedule to deal with this, so I think we're gonna be able to pull this off (God willing). He's going to be going thru chemo and radiation at the same time, and I hope the chemo is as mild as the doc says it will be. Keeping my fingers crossed, for sure.

On to the other Bear has been showing me every single day that he has my back and is in this for the long haul. This man is doing everything in his power to make me feel safe, loved, and cherished.

He pitches in and actually asks if there's something he can do to help! OMG!!! He's been my rock, and he's got a great set of shoulders that I've been leaning on (and cried on a couple of times).

I really had given up on dating when he finally got me to agree to spend some time alone with him (he'd been working on it for a while), so my brain had gone into long-term single mode. I'm really glad he didn't give up because I think this guy is a "keeper".

We haven't had much time available to really go out much, or do the usual new relationship stuff, and that kind of worries me.....but when my day is done & he's hanging out on the porch with me, we've done a lot of talking, laughing, and gotten to know each other pretty well. He's been able to get my mind off my dad's health issues and get me to relax and enjoy the time we do have together.

So....things are going surprisingly well considering how crazy life has been lately. And I do mean crazy. Tuesday night a mountain lion killed my daughter's 3 pet goats. Wednesday night DOW trapped the lion, so Thursday morning I ended up having my morning coffee while watching a very large, pissed-off tomcat hiss, spit, and snarl at all of us. I'm pretty sure he's the one that's been going through my yard, and I'm glad he's gone. He was big (around 130 lbs.) and damned scary looking. Never a dull moment around here!

Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...

God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
-Reinhold Neibuhr

Posts: 3171 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: Colorado
Sad in AZ
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Member # 24239
Default  Posted: 10:45 AM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oy! Good health to your dad, and congrats on finding someone to share your pain and happiness.

You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.

Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-62
Him: WXH-62
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011

Posts: 25302 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Arizona
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Member # 31468
Default  Posted: 12:38 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow el, that mountain lion situation is crazy!

Positive thoughts and energy for your dad, as well as you and your daughter. So glad you're able to work that out.

Your guy sounds like a keeper, really happy for you - you deserve someone incredible!

Miss you here but sounds like you're pretty busy lady!

Me: BW-46
Him: XWH-46

Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.

Posts: 5292 | Registered: Mar 2011
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Member # 19595
Default  Posted: 6:12 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi E-lady !
Good to see a check in from you !

Prayers for you, Dad and family !
New guy sounds like he is a keeper. I don't know about you but I didn't know what to think when a real man actually asked what he could do for me. FT NEVER !!
The joys of wild life..I had a mountain lion that would make his rounds through the marital property about twice a's scary.

Hang in there, you have a great support network and enjoy the love ride. HUGS !

It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20489 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..
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