So, I just finished talking to a college friend. We both went to school at a very small college, and STBX went there as well.
When we were talking, I told him that I was divorced, and I said, "You know, we went to school with him."
My friend had NO idea who he was. He said, "I thought you married the doctor! The guy who was pre-med when we were there!"
I said, no, he was my previous BF, and we broke up. I tried describing STBX, but he didn't ring a bell with my friend.
I think that says a lot about who STBX is vs. who I am. While I wouldn't say that I'm a wildly popular person, I was involved in lots of things on campus and got to know many people. STBX could never believe how many people I knew (which would be a normal amount to any of you-- STBX literally had like ten friends at school).
That was helpful to me. I keep making STBX out to be better and happier in my mind after the recent engagement news, when in reality, he's not even on most people's radar. I need to get him off of my radar other than kids and finances as well. I need to remember how small he is and how little he truly has in his life.