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Topic: Words i wish she wouldn't say

Yakamishi
♂ 38230
Member # 38230

Posted: 12:21 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013

"I don't remember". Grrrrrrr. If she never says it again it would be ok.

Any others?

Me: BH
Her: WW Mrs.yaka
Kids:4
Variouse clues to EA. WW promised it would stop.
D-Day of EA 9/13/2012 2:01PM found 2 yrs of text messages, confessed to EA
D-Day of PA: confessed on 9/22/12 11:53 PM. Worst moment of my life

Posts: 234 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Massachusetts

BrokenT
♀ 39056
Member # 39056

Posted: 12:31 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013

"I don't know", "it was nothing". But "I don't know" is the one that gets to me!

And I absolutely agree with you on "I can't remember".

I'm sorry. Maybe it'll work out one day.

BW 27
WH 33
Real Dday: May 22nd, 2013

Posts: 49 | Registered: Apr 2013

mesoSTUPID
♀ 35679
Member # 35679

Posted: 3:05 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013

I hate the "I can't change/erase what I did." When I hear that, I cringe!

ME (BS): 41 and so stupid!
Him (WH): 43. He's my dragon slayer but my heart wasn't supposed to be slayed!

Posts: 195 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Miami

UKlady
♀ 39058
Member # 39058

Posted: 3:12 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013

I think "I don't know" as a response is soooo very frustrating as it leaves you totally in limbo. However, I do believe that actually it can be the truth.

One of my biggest struggles is when I've asked, "Where was I, in your head, when you went back and did it again after having told me how much the first time reviled you?"

But I believe, for now, he didn't know. Maybe I was 'compartmentalised' at that time

Me: BW 45
Him: WH 48
Married: 6 years, together 9 years
D-day: 3 January 2013 - he confessed.
A: June-Dec 2012
No children.

Posts: 153 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: UK

standinghere
♂ 34689
Member # 34689

Posted: 3:00 AM, May 26th (Sunday), 2013

Yeah, and the worst hing is that my wife really can't remember.

I know that I will never know the full story, because she doesn't even know it.

Took me quite a while to get to that reality.

BH - Me - Late 30's (now late 40's)
WW - Her - Late 30's (now late 40's)
4 Children
Her - Love of my life...still is.
Reconciled - Partly...she can't get over it.
Her - Thunderstruck by what she did.

Posts: 1073 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: USA

guarded
♀ 25364
Member # 25364

Posted: 8:21 AM, May 27th (Monday), 2013

"I don't know" and "I don't remember" are the bane of my existence!

How the hell do you not know when you and McTrash are the only two that DO know...the only two there? Aaargh!