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User Topic: Words i wish she wouldn't say
♂ 38230
Member # 38230
Default  Posted: 12:21 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"I don't remember". Grrrrrrr. If she never says it again it would be ok.

Any others?

Me: BH
Her: WW Mrs.yaka
Variouse clues to EA. WW promised it would stop.
D-Day of EA 9/13/2012 2:01PM found 2 yrs of text messages, confessed to EA
D-Day of PA: confessed on 9/22/12 11:53 PM. Worst moment of my life

Posts: 248 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Massachusetts
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Member # 39056
Default  Posted: 12:31 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"I don't know", "it was nothing". But "I don't know" is the one that gets to me!

And I absolutely agree with you on "I can't remember".

I'm sorry. Maybe it'll work out one day.

BW 27
WH 33
Real Dday: May 22nd, 2013

Posts: 49 | Registered: Apr 2013
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Member # 35679
Default  Posted: 3:05 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hate the "I can't change/erase what I did." When I hear that, I cringe!

ME (BS): 41 and so stupid!
Him (WH): 43. He's my dragon slayer but my heart wasn't supposed to be slayed!

Posts: 195 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Miami
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Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think "I don't know" as a response is soooo very frustrating as it leaves you totally in limbo. However, I do believe that actually it can be the truth.

One of my biggest struggles is when I've asked, "Where was I, in your head, when you went back and did it again after having told me how much the first time reviled you?"

But I believe, for now, he didn't know. Maybe I was 'compartmentalised' at that time

Me: BW 45
Him: WH 48
Married: 6 years, together 9 years
D-day: 3 January 2013 - he confessed.
A: June-Dec 2012
No children.

Posts: 153 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: UK
♂ 34689
Member # 34689
Default  Posted: 3:00 AM, May 26th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah, and the worst hing is that my wife really can't remember.

I know that I will never know the full story, because she doesn't even know it.

Took me quite a while to get to that reality.

BH - Me - Late 30's (now late 40's)
WW - Her - Late 30's (now late 40's)
4 Children
Her - Love of my life...still is.
Reconciled - Partly...she can't get over it.
Her - Thunderstruck by what she did.

Posts: 1151 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: USA
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Default  Posted: 8:21 AM, May 27th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"I don't know" and "I don't remember" are the bane of my existence!

How the hell do you not know when you and McTrash are the only two that DO know...the only two there? Aaargh!

In R? But how do you know it isn't another pack of lies?

Posts: 546 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: NY
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Default  Posted: 1:13 PM, May 27th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"It was an accident"

Fro the female perspective:

No running into the back of another car is an accident - shoving your penis in another woman is not!!

[This message edited by UndecidedinMA at 1:13 PM, May 27th (Monday)]

Him - FWSO
OW - DBC Xwife
DDAY 09/14/11 ONS w/DBCxWOW with 4 mos EA
Solidly in R

Posts: 1005 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: MA
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