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Reconciliation :
Words i wish she wouldn't say

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 Yakamishi (original poster member #38230) posted at 6:21 PM on Saturday, May 25th, 2013

"I don't remember". Grrrrrrr. If she never says it again it would be ok.

Any others?

Me: BH
Her: WW Mrs.yaka
Kids:4
Variouse clues to EA. WW promised it would stop.
D-Day of EA 9/13/2012 2:01PM found 2 yrs of text messages, confessed to EA
D-Day of PA: confessed on 9/22/12 11:53 PM. Worst moment of my life

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BrokenT ( new member #39056) posted at 6:31 PM on Saturday, May 25th, 2013

"I don't know", "it was nothing". But "I don't know" is the one that gets to me!

And I absolutely agree with you on "I can't remember".

I'm sorry. Maybe it'll work out one day.

BW 27
WH 33
Real Dday: May 22nd, 2013

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mesoSTUPID ( member #35679) posted at 9:05 PM on Saturday, May 25th, 2013

I hate the "I can't change/erase what I did." When I hear that, I cringe!

ME (BS): 41 and so stupid!
Him (WH): 43. He's my dragon slayer but my heart wasn't supposed to be slayed!

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UKlady ( member #39058) posted at 9:12 PM on Saturday, May 25th, 2013

I think "I don't know" as a response is soooo very frustrating as it leaves you totally in limbo. However, I do believe that actually it can be the truth.

One of my biggest struggles is when I've asked, "Where was I, in your head, when you went back and did it again after having told me how much the first time reviled you?"

But I believe, for now, he didn't know. Maybe I was 'compartmentalised' at that time

Me: BW 45
Him: WH 48
Married: 6 years, together 9 years
D-day: 3 January 2013 - he confessed.
A: June-Dec 2012
No children.

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standinghere ( member #34689) posted at 9:00 AM on Sunday, May 26th, 2013

Yeah, and the worst hing is that my wife really can't remember.

I know that I will never know the full story, because she doesn't even know it.

Took me quite a while to get to that reality.

FBH - Me - Betrayal in late 30's (now much older)
FWS - Her - Affair in late 30's (now much older )
4 Children
Her - Love of my life...still is.
Reconciled BUT!

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guarded ( member #25364) posted at 2:21 PM on Monday, May 27th, 2013

"I don't know" and "I don't remember" are the bane of my existence!

How the hell do you not know when you and McTrash are the only two that DO know...the only two there? Aaargh!

In R? But how do you know it isn't another pack of lies?

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UndecidedinMA ( member #33732) posted at 7:13 PM on Monday, May 27th, 2013

"It was an accident"

Fro the female perspective:

No running into the back of another car is an accident - shoving your penis in another woman is not!!

[This message edited by UndecidedinMA at 1:13 PM, May 27th (Monday)]

ME - BSO
Him - FWSO
OW - DBC Xwife
DDAY 09/14/11 ONS w/DBCxWOW with 4 mos EA
Solidly in R

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