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How possible is it for the walk away spouse to get more time if he isn't using the time he has? I'm so sick of his threats! Grrrr

It's not...but that's why it's so important to DOCUMENT because the onus is on you to prove it.

I document everything. . But isn't that my weekendword against his?

He would have texts or emails proving that he is taking them the max time since he would have to make arrangements with you for pick up or drop offs..

I keep an online calendar of where Teslet is at...but I also have all the texts and emails where ex-shat has requested a change and I always reflect those changes on the calendar.

In my case, sadly it's very possible. From the time of separation in October 2012 until March 2013, STBX was taking them 5 overnights a month, wasn't even asking for more, but at our first mediation (when child support was to be determined) he said he wanted 50/50, and he got it..

But I would imagine if you already have a legal visitation schedule in place, and he's not taking all the time he is supposed to, that would be different.. I think it starts setting a precedence..

As far as documenting, of course I keep a calendar, but I also take tons of pictures. I've even taken them when they are sleeping at night, just to prove where they are sleeping..

[This message edited by ButterflyGirl at 10:46 PM, May 25th (Saturday)]