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ideservebetter45 posted 5/25/2013 18:10 PM

How possible is it for the walk away spouse to get more time if he isn't using the time he has? I'm so sick of his threats! Grrrr

pjkmkjm23 posted 5/25/2013 18:25 PM

It's not...but that's why it's so important to DOCUMENT because the onus is on you to prove it.

ideservebetter45 posted 5/25/2013 19:33 PM

I document everything. . But isn't that my weekendword against his?

tesla posted 5/25/2013 21:22 PM

He would have texts or emails proving that he is taking them the max time since he would have to make arrangements with you for pick up or drop offs..

I keep an online calendar of where Teslet is at...but I also have all the texts and emails where ex-shat has requested a change and I always reflect those changes on the calendar.

ButterflyGirl posted 5/25/2013 22:45 PM

In my case, sadly it's very possible. From the time of separation in October 2012 until March 2013, STBX was taking them 5 overnights a month, wasn't even asking for more, but at our first mediation (when child support was to be determined) he said he wanted 50/50, and he got it..

But I would imagine if you already have a legal visitation schedule in place, and he's not taking all the time he is supposed to, that would be different.. I think it starts setting a precedence..

As far as documenting, of course I keep a calendar, but I also take tons of pictures. I've even taken them when they are sleeping at night, just to prove where they are sleeping..

[This message edited by ButterflyGirl at 10:46 PM, May 25th (Saturday)]