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User Topic: Harassment against spouse?
♀ 38377
Member # 38377
Default  Posted: 10:20 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

After repeatedly reminding my STBX that the temporary mediation agreement says that all non-urgent communication should be done through email, I got another text from him tonight.

My whole family went out to dinner for my father's birthday at our favorite restaurant, a Japanese steakhouse. At about $20 an entree, it's usually the most we spend for a nice meal. I let the kids bring their leftovers with them when I dropped them off with STBX. Soon after I left, he texted, "Trying to buy the kids love...Too funny...loser."

I'm so sick of him texting me and insulting me and assuming he knows what I'm thinking or doing. Since he continually texts me about non-urgent matters, I'm tempted to speak with my lawyer about this and see if anything can be done. Has anyone ever filed a harassment charge against their spouse or done anything like that? I know I should just ignore and delete or have someone else look first to see if it's anything important, but I just want it to stop.. I know it shouldn't hurt my feelings since he's just being an NPD asshole, but after more than 12 years together, I must admit that it does.

xBW~ 37
Two DS~ 9 and 13

Posts: 3120 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
♀ 31468
Member # 31468
Default  Posted: 10:21 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

All I can say is F.T.G. What a fucking NPD idiot. I'm so very sorry your poor children have to deal with that BS.

Me: BW-46
Him: XWH-46

Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.

Posts: 5292 | Registered: Mar 2011
♀ 34697
Member # 34697
Default  Posted: 10:43 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

God, what a pathetic asshole.

Shortly after D-day, I got my own phone account and used the new line for my family, teslet's school, etc. Eventually, I got to the point where my phone that was still on his account was put on silent and only checked once at night and once in the morning.

Do what you can to minimize his intrusions. I don't know how harassment against a spouse works...hopefully, someone will be along that can speak to that. But do check with your L if there is anything that can be done.

[This message edited by tesla at 10:44 PM, May 25th (Saturday)]

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4962 | Registered: Jan 2012
♀ 34823
Member # 34823
Default  Posted: 11:04 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BG, your stbx is a total dickwad.
Call your L and just ask your question. The answer is most probably going to be that there's nothing you can do.
However...continue to take the high road. You have your kids in counseling so they and the counselor can 'witness' for you about who is doing exactly what in regards to your delusional stbx and his allegations against you.

Your stbx is a real POS.

"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.

Posts: 9188 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
♀ 32554
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 11:07 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maybe there's nothing you can do now. Don't know. However, I urge you to print out each of these nasty grams & save them. At some point the cumulative weight of that vitriol should have some impact on a lawyer or judge.

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!

Posts: 10722 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
♀ 39204
Member # 39204
Default  Posted: 11:17 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Definitely save all of them. When you may need them in front of the judge. Especially if there is a custody issue.

So sorry your going through this.

Me. - moving on and upward !!!

Posts: 102 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Great Britain
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