Are you just assuming there wasn't any sex, or are you sure?
I’m not SURE sure since I wasn’t there. I do know for a fact that FWH was beaten down by my constant nagging and arguing for 1.5 yrs after DD1. He didn’t want to be in the same room with me anymore because I had a bad case of tunnelvision and depression. All I did for these 1.5 yrs was ask questions, blame and shout. I didn’t even care if one of the kids needed attention. He said he would’ve paid money to be able to have a normal relationship with me again and talk about daily stuff, but I didn’t want any of that.
OW, however, did, and gladly took my place.
FWH said he always told her he didn’t want to leave me. She did ask about it and indicated she’d leave her M the second he asked.
FWH told me he wanted to end the affair but didn’t have the backbone at the time.
He and I didn’t have sex at the time. He was always tired and, in retrospect, sick of himself and the whole situation and certainly not in the mood to have sex with me or anyone. We’d have sex, and soon after I’d get outraged again, that was the cycle we had before that. Apparently the whole nature of this second affair was different, more of an emotional outlet for him, and there was no mention of them having sex.
He did tell OW the affair made him uncomfortable and he didn’t like the lies.
At their last walk she asked him if he even wanted to be there, with her, and he said no and left her standing there.
He was relieved when I found out and he made the NC-call, telling her he regretted the day he met her and any day he spent time with her, in my presence.
He has been std tested and nothing was found. He is still in NC. There has been some TT but he soon found out it was only hurting his case.